Boyfriend advice needed - complete newbie :O

[Bowyn Aerrow]

You already drew a line in the sand.

The other week I had had enough of being ignored, so I txt him and said if you don't make an effort by x date, forget it. It's over.

Something inside you decided that there is a place for this ultimatum.

From what you have written (I do not read minds, my crystal ball is in the shop for repairs so I only have what you have written here to go on) He has been using and abusing you right from the very start when he bald faced about his age.

This set a down hill trend where he has been using and abusing you.

From what you have written again based this one short post, he only helped you as a way to get what he wanted from you. Right now it sounds like he has you wrapped around his little finger - at least he thinks he does, and is only continuing to use and abuse you.

You are young and have a full life ahead of you - he is 40, half of his life if not more is already spent (and from what you have posted, spent badly). He is most likely not going to change any time soon.

You draw the line in the sand, stick with it. You wrote it with your heart - it has validation.