12-13-2011, 07:40 PM
That sounds like an absolutely wonderful experience, one that I wish I'd have myself...what a fantasy 
But seriously, as the rest have said, you should get tested. I know you said you used protection, but it'd still be a good idea just so you know for sure. Past that, the question is whether you should tell your wife or not.
This would make a good House episode...assuming you got really sick and then they figured out what obscure combination of things was wrong with you
Seriously though, I wouldn't tell her. At least, not yet. I think someday you can, but your child is the main point. I'm sure plenty of people on this board alone have grown up with divorced parents and stepparents and it can be good or bad, but most of the time no one likes it when their mom and dad split. I know I didn't.
Course, your son is pretty young, a lot younger than I was when my parents got divorced (I was 11). He could grow up in a life where he's used to you not being around, but then again, I doubt you really want that. Not to mention, the financial difficulty of it that for you.
Do what you think is best, but since you're asking our advice, I'd suggest keeping this to yourself (and make sure your wife doesn't accidentally stumble on this website or anything. Browse incognito or delete your cookies/history and shit like that)
EDIT: And like Inchante just said, this is gonna be a pretty overwhelming experience for you. When I came out to myself as Bi over this summer just past, I was freaking nuts for quite awhile. I was super obsessed with men, I just wanted to go out there and experience it, but I am in a relationship with my girlfriend of 2 years now and we live together and are dependent upon each other financially. I can't just break it off to go exploring, I can't afford to, nor do I just want to throw away what we've got together cause it's pretty good. Do I still want to try being with a man? Absolutely! But I am still with my lady because it's where I need to be right now and it'd be awful for both of us to end it right now.
But seriously, as the rest have said, you should get tested. I know you said you used protection, but it'd still be a good idea just so you know for sure. Past that, the question is whether you should tell your wife or not.
This would make a good House episode...assuming you got really sick and then they figured out what obscure combination of things was wrong with you
Seriously though, I wouldn't tell her. At least, not yet. I think someday you can, but your child is the main point. I'm sure plenty of people on this board alone have grown up with divorced parents and stepparents and it can be good or bad, but most of the time no one likes it when their mom and dad split. I know I didn't.
Course, your son is pretty young, a lot younger than I was when my parents got divorced (I was 11). He could grow up in a life where he's used to you not being around, but then again, I doubt you really want that. Not to mention, the financial difficulty of it that for you.
Do what you think is best, but since you're asking our advice, I'd suggest keeping this to yourself (and make sure your wife doesn't accidentally stumble on this website or anything. Browse incognito or delete your cookies/history and shit like that)
EDIT: And like Inchante just said, this is gonna be a pretty overwhelming experience for you. When I came out to myself as Bi over this summer just past, I was freaking nuts for quite awhile. I was super obsessed with men, I just wanted to go out there and experience it, but I am in a relationship with my girlfriend of 2 years now and we live together and are dependent upon each other financially. I can't just break it off to go exploring, I can't afford to, nor do I just want to throw away what we've got together cause it's pretty good. Do I still want to try being with a man? Absolutely! But I am still with my lady because it's where I need to be right now and it'd be awful for both of us to end it right now.
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