12-15-2011, 03:06 PM
Dude, i have one-word advice for you: RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Look, you've gone back and forth with these 2 several times! One time is an islolated incident - 3 times - that's a pattern!
Chalk this up to 20-year old gay men being 20 year old gay men (that's the safe summary of what's going on) and just move on. They BOTH know how to maniupulate you and will continue to do so. I hate to say this, but really, you're just a "place holder" in their lives. YOu're a conduit for them to work out their OWN issues and you're paying the price.
I'm betting you're a fun guy with alot to offer someone - do you think EITHER of these guys is worthy of you? Now, emotionally that's going to be tough to answer, but in your heart-of-hearts you know there's no real chance for a strong, committed relationship or friendship.
2012 starts in a couple weeks, take this opportunity to move on. Tell them both that you're moving on and ask them to respect the fact that you're going to make some "space" from them. Oh, that's not a request, it's more of a statement. Then jsut do it. Move on. Don't engage them in online chats, text messages, or chats in the bar. If you see them out (together or seperately) just smile, wave and/or nod, but just go back to doing what you're doing.
TRUST ME, they will find another "friend" to play the role you currently play - its something more between THEM they have to work out!
Look, you've gone back and forth with these 2 several times! One time is an islolated incident - 3 times - that's a pattern!
Chalk this up to 20-year old gay men being 20 year old gay men (that's the safe summary of what's going on) and just move on. They BOTH know how to maniupulate you and will continue to do so. I hate to say this, but really, you're just a "place holder" in their lives. YOu're a conduit for them to work out their OWN issues and you're paying the price.
I'm betting you're a fun guy with alot to offer someone - do you think EITHER of these guys is worthy of you? Now, emotionally that's going to be tough to answer, but in your heart-of-hearts you know there's no real chance for a strong, committed relationship or friendship.
2012 starts in a couple weeks, take this opportunity to move on. Tell them both that you're moving on and ask them to respect the fact that you're going to make some "space" from them. Oh, that's not a request, it's more of a statement. Then jsut do it. Move on. Don't engage them in online chats, text messages, or chats in the bar. If you see them out (together or seperately) just smile, wave and/or nod, but just go back to doing what you're doing.
TRUST ME, they will find another "friend" to play the role you currently play - its something more between THEM they have to work out!
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