Forbidden Love

[Bowyn Aerrow]

How to I fix my head so I stop having those thoughts and ideas?

You don't - or there is no way to 'fix' it. You will have these ideas, thoughts and fantasies.

Now try not to think of elephants.... I bet suddenly you are seeing elephants in your mind's eyes. Don't think about those elephants - I'm telling you you are not allowed to think of elephants.

Stop it. Stop thinking of elephants.

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Do you see how this is going. The more I deny you the ability to think of elephants, the more stubborn you are going to be and think of the elephants. To make it worse, your eyes are going back to that picture of the elephants - you can't help it because you know you are not supposed to think of elephants nor look at the elephants.

This is exactly what is going on in your head with this guy. The more you order yourself to not think about him, the more you forbid yourself to have feelings about him the more you are going to think about him and have feelings for him.

And each time you see him you will be stealing glances,if not down right staring at him because you have made him 'forbidden fruit'.

You need to just learn to live with the though of elephants, erm, him and the idea that you have an emotional attraction to him.

Its ok to have emotional attraction to 'forbidden fruit'. It is perfectly human to want that which we cannot have. What is not OK is to find ways to get what we want when we can't have it.

In privacy indulge yourself - mentally masturbate (or physically, whatever). Try to get him out of your system. Eventually the pang of unrequited love lessens, you will move on, you will find someone who can reciprocate.

Just don't try to force yourself to 'not' feel about him - it can't be done and that is usually where people get into trouble, the more they try not to think of something the more they think of it - and that leads to them doing things they shouldn't ought'a do.