Forbidden Love

[musicman2229]

Dude, the obvious solution is to do with him like you would do with any other crush you can't have: cut him out of your life completely, delete his number, his social networking pages, any pictures you have of him, etc., and never talk to him again. This is effective for getting rid of the standard day-to-day crush that breaks your heart.

But then, this isn't a standard day-to-day crush, is it? This is your best friend. You're walking an emotional knife edge right now, and best case scenario, you emerge from this happy and with a friend. Try putting some distance between the two of you. Don't cut him out, but give yourself things to do other than sitting around wallowing in self pity for what you can never have. If you are super busy with work, school, volunteering, etc., it will take your mind off him.

Sorry if the post seems harsh, but you talk about a magic pill to solve this very delicate problem, and we both know there isn't one. If you go to your library, I'm pretty sure you won't find "Turn the Romantic into the Plutonic in Six Easy Steps" on any of the shelves, and you certainly aren't going to get a consensus like that on this forum either. You have to figure out what works for you. And in the end, seeing as how most of us don't have degrees in psychology, that is all we can offer you as well.

I understand where you are coming from with getting attached to people. I suspect that it is one of those things that sucks in the short term but pays off in the long run. I can't dictate exactly what path you need to take to get past this thing, but I can be pretty sure that the first step is to give yourself a break.