not sure how to tell my family

[musicman2229]

I'm not sure how to respond to this. I'm utterly shocked on so many levels.

Firstly, you should never imprison anyone in a car like this, for that's what it is. If they have a tendency to walk away from awkward conversations then let them and find a different way to pass the message along.

Maybe I'm being too militant in my approach, but why not? They imprisoned this person in a house where he felt insecure being himself for at least 18 years. Maybe they deserve 30 minutes of their own medicine.

Frightening them (if they recognise you're emotive and aren't concentrating enough on driving) while coming out to them is hardly going to endear them to the idea. Or are you hoping for the Stockholm Syndrome effect to kick in?

Clearly you're missing the point. If you start out too emotional, then you either didn't think it through enough, or you're simply not emotionally ready. Do you ever talk on the phone while driving? It's a pretty distracting activity, and just about everybody in my city does it. I've lived there for 4 years and have not been run down yet.

Second, you are NOT in control of the situation. It's a false sense of security. I've been there (not for the coming out speech, but equally emotive as I was being manipulated by my psychopathic, and I use that word most judiciously, ex). I ended up going faster just to end the situation. Luckily it was quiet.

Wow, way to comfort the kid in his time of need! Just because you aren't in control of your emotions enough to drive safely doesn't mean other people aren't. I'm really quite glad that an ocean and half of a continent are separating us, because I would hate to see you on the roads after a heated debated on gayspeak.

In another example when I was driving while very emotive (the night I left my ex) the bits between leaving my front door to arriving in my parents street are a blank. That was 9 years ago and it still scares me that I can't remember the journey. The only bit I remember is arriving in my parents street and wondering how the hell I got there.

This sounds more and more like it's acutely YOUR problem, not CMJ1985's, and not mine. You are hardly the first person to have an emotional experience while driving, but you are the first that I've heard about who has blacked out because of rage and stress and can't remember a specific drive home. You're right, that's scary, and you should get it checked out.

Finally, just because an ordinarily reasonable and rational person can get so emotive and/or distressed that they are unfit to drive on some individual occasions should not bar them from driving at other times so long as they recognise when they are unsafe to drive.

So, basically, understand your limits and only drive when you are safe to drive? That's fine. So say, hypothetically, that a certain 26 year old from Moose Jaw realizes that, from past stressful experiences behind the wheel, his temperament enables him to drive safely in emotional situations. By your logic, if he feels that he is safe to drive, then there is no reason why he shouldn't come out while driving purely on the basis that he might cause an accident. Correct?
My point is that with 7 billion people on the planet, not everybody is going to have the same emotional driving tendencies that you do.

If I get into that state I know to pull over and wait to calm down or I don't start the journey at all if I am in or think likely I'll get into that state.

Good. You recognize your limitations. I'll just say that I came out to my mom while driving. The emotions were all coming from her, and we were never in any danger. It went extremely well, and I have since recommended this method to lots of people who were wondering about how to best come out. I won't claim that it's absolutely the best method. I only had one mom to try it on, and it worked for me, but there are probably dozens of methods I haven't even thought of that would work just as well or better.