01-16-2012, 08:57 PM
There is nothing wrong with you because you don't feel anything. I sometimes think of it as a state of shock. You're probably constantly thinking, "Why does this always happen to me?". You're just in a stalemate on how to feel about the situation. I'm betting part of you wants to hate Richard for his betrayal. After all, he is suppose to be your friend and under your nose he slips in and steals the guy you've liked for a while.
In turn that brings up questions that you may have been asking yourself, such as: "Was Richard really trying to help me or was he just pretending to be a wing-man to get Garrett for himself?
Ultimately, your friendship decision has to be made on your own basis. You know Richard better than we all do, so we can't definitely say don't be his friends. That is something you must decide on your own. Compare the pros and cons of having him as a friend and then ask yourself if you're in a state that will allow you to move past this initial hill of your friendship so that things can go back to being normal.
Your next move should be to talk. I am honestly a person who believes that talking out the situation will make you feel better. Don't coy to how they may feel, you're the one hurting and right now you need to talk. I suggest talking your feelings out with Richard. Maybe it'll help you express those repressed emotions and you'll be able to feel something again.
That and you should not bottle up your feelings. It really can be an emotional beater. I know talking to someone that hurts you is hard, but it can be very relieving when you're done. Also talk to someone outside of this situation. Another friend, maybe a parent, anyone who'll listen. You don't have to seek advice, just having a person who'll listen to your rant is just as good.
Talking, in my opinion, will make you feel better. It'll cut out those underlying emotions and help bring it all to the surface. Whether the outcome is good or bad, that's the way life plays out sometimes.
Think of this situation as a testament to your "I'm in a good place" statement. This is just another test that you have to hurdle over, but not be defeated by. You remember what helped you get to this good place and let that help you get yourself back there. It might even help you solve whatever you need to solve in this situation.
In turn that brings up questions that you may have been asking yourself, such as: "Was Richard really trying to help me or was he just pretending to be a wing-man to get Garrett for himself?
Ultimately, your friendship decision has to be made on your own basis. You know Richard better than we all do, so we can't definitely say don't be his friends. That is something you must decide on your own. Compare the pros and cons of having him as a friend and then ask yourself if you're in a state that will allow you to move past this initial hill of your friendship so that things can go back to being normal.
Your next move should be to talk. I am honestly a person who believes that talking out the situation will make you feel better. Don't coy to how they may feel, you're the one hurting and right now you need to talk. I suggest talking your feelings out with Richard. Maybe it'll help you express those repressed emotions and you'll be able to feel something again.
That and you should not bottle up your feelings. It really can be an emotional beater. I know talking to someone that hurts you is hard, but it can be very relieving when you're done. Also talk to someone outside of this situation. Another friend, maybe a parent, anyone who'll listen. You don't have to seek advice, just having a person who'll listen to your rant is just as good.
Talking, in my opinion, will make you feel better. It'll cut out those underlying emotions and help bring it all to the surface. Whether the outcome is good or bad, that's the way life plays out sometimes.
Think of this situation as a testament to your "I'm in a good place" statement. This is just another test that you have to hurdle over, but not be defeated by. You remember what helped you get to this good place and let that help you get yourself back there. It might even help you solve whatever you need to solve in this situation.
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