Boyfriend?

[SadSilence]

I know I'm fifteen, but I would like to try a relationship with someone, know what it feels like and the whole sha-bang (Not sex, no no no sex. I believe sex is reserved for marriage) but I'm extremely shy and insecure about myself. Here in Utah there is roughly only fourty LGBT type of groups that ive heard of or read about. The nearest one is again roughly twenty to thirty miles away from where I live. Just curious on how I might go about trying to find a boyfriend

[colourblindguy]

Well first off I'm glad to see that you're not talking about suicide anymore. You keep you head up bud.

As for as looking for a bf, I'm in the same boat and have been since forever. I've been told when you stop looking, that's when it happens. I dunno if that's true or not, but you might give it a try. Just surround yourself with good people who are like you and connect. It'll happen for you in time, especially at your age compared to mine.

[Person66]

I'm not going to pretend that I have lots of wisdom regarding boyfriends (I'm with my first real boyfriend).
But I've had plenty of experiences with relationships (previously girlfriends) and from my experience the best relationships, both my current boyfriend and my closest girlfriend, sprang forth from friendships

So I'd advise you to try to find something you could do with other people with similar interests. For example I've always loved puppetry and Avenue Q is my favorite musical and I was thinking of taking "group
intensive classes" that the makers of Avenue Q offer at a surprisingly reasonable price where you get to work with John Tartaglia. If I have the time (questionable).

To be completely honest, Pellaz showed me a map showing the % of gay people in all 50 states, I'd share the link but I can't find it to save my life. Unfortunately it showed Utah to have the lowest percentage, but these things are of questionable accuracy, so who knows.

As the above poster said you have SO much time to find the right person. So try to take things easy.

[HollandofFrance]

im leery of giving anyone under 18 advice in USA on that issue

all ill say meet people in liberal churches ,clubs or whatever

[dfiant]

Hey SadSilence. I'm heartened to read that you are looking for that special someone.

Finding a BF isn't as simple as everyone thinks and it is easy to become dishearted. The harder you look for someone special, the less likely you are to find them, so don't put that sort of pressure on yourself.

These things tend to happen when you least expect them, even when you are 15.

I had my first BF when I was 12 in my first year of high school, obviously it only last a couple of months.

My second BF lived 3 houses up the road from me, we had been friends since forever and we started an on again - off again relationship that would last 13 years. He passed away in 1999 and I have been single since then. I have had a few flings that have lasted months, but nothing special.

Unlike some people I'm not afraid to offer advice as I remember what it was like to be 15, nothing is going to stop you from wanting what you want. Doesn't Gaydar.com have a 'safe' site specifically for teens? Have a look into that. You may find some guys around your area there, maybe even use the chatrooms and have a chat, be keep in mind those website tend to be used more for hook-ups for sex.

BE VERY CAREFUL...don't give any personal details to anyone until you are sure you know who they are, there are also a lot of predators. If you decide to meet onyone from the internet, met in a very public place like a shopping centre that you are familiar with and make sure you have escape routes and ALWAYS let someone know where you are going and what time you'll be home.

Stay safe my precious

[Sylph]

I know I'm fifteen, but I would like to try a relationship with someone, know what it feels like and the whole sha-bang (Not sex, no no no sex. I believe sex is reserved for marriage) but I'm extremely shy and insecure about myself. Here in Utah there is roughly only fourty LGBT type of groups that ive heard of or read about. The nearest one is again roughly twenty to thirty miles away from where I live. Just curious on how I might go about trying to find a boyfriend

Well, it's good you know not to have frivolous sex , especially with just anybody. I personally do not believe in marriage, because of personal reasons, but I think it's good for everyone else.

Remember you don't have to rush, so just keep that in mind.

As for the LGBT groups/organizations, I'd suggest them, although since you are only 15, you can't drive there (it's 16 there right? It's 18 here), so maybe wait until your 16 or ask your parents if you've come out to them. We don't have any LGBT groups or associations here, so everything I've learned is from T.V or online resources and friends.

You have no reason to be shy, because for one, You look very cute from your avatar pic. Also, we only have one life to live, so why be shy or afraid to be the beautiful flower you are? I used to think badly of myself, but then I realized, I am a good person and have alot to offer. It doesn't matter what other people think, because at the end of the day, it's you who should matter the most and what you think of yourself. This would probably attract a guy to you faster, because hesitation and insecurities are not something people want to associate themselves with, confidence is very attractive.

It's not being selfish to love yourself, so don't be afraid to do so, publically even.



(try standing infront of mirror and tell yourself something positive, everyday. It can help boost your confidence. I always write on the fog of my bathroom mirror after a shower "I love U' and I read it to myself until the letters start to drip )

[DarkDaisuke]

Well Im just glad to hear you're alright And looking for a boyfriend these days often starts online. Try looking in your area. There are teen sites such as Trevorspace (Your best bet since its for all ages mostly under 21 but I have seen a few young adults who are either there to help or are just creepy) But I wish you luck on your journey and I hope you get one

[matty7]

so happy to see u posting more upbeat stuff m8 , dont worry too much about lgbt groups right now if there far away .. just happy that ur fealing better in your own skin ,,as for BF'S .. i love to give some wonderfull advice but right now i dont have one myself so my advice is general - if a guy keeps coming back to u to chat then maybe he is interested , look out for someone checking u out-look backs etc ?? just have fun really , u meet more guys at ur age so lets hope there;s someone thinking like u in utah after a nice guy too

[Rainbowmum]

I am so happy to see that you are back to doing normal teenager stuff.
Have fun , enjoy and remember to play it safe.

Proud of you sweetheart.

[pellaz]

You should be able to find some one on line.
Your age right.