Sorry...red flags for me. Something is amiss...I think you actually answered your own question in your initial post.. he may be waiting for a chance to go back. He might still be in love with his ex. I think it is generally wise to stay clear of the rebound guy as a rule but then again...for every rule there is an exception. Is he the exception?
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Few more possibilities for you to consider:
>He may be trying to figure out how to "date" after being off the market for 10 years.
>He may have body image issues and rushing to be naked with someone new might be a little daunting for him.
>He may have concerns about STIs and trusting a new partner after (I'm assuming) a 10 year monogamous relationship.
>He may be a bit more passive and is waiting for you to make the first move.
Do you know why he broke up with his partner? Have you been over to his home and has the ex been there as well (does he know about you?)?
I think you are right that your best bet is just having an honest conversation with him. Best wishes!
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