Is my Ex-husband gay? Need opinions
03-24-2012, 12:19 PM
IF you want to save your marriage, get thee to a marriage counselor.
I have been with the same guy for 14 years. We have done couples counseling on more than one occasion.
Frankly, we have had years of no sex in this household. It happens. Of course we live with the Virus (he is positive and I am negative) its a big white elephant that sleeps in the middle of the bed. Well actually the big black lab and the gianormous Yorkie Schnauzer mix sleep in the middle of the bed leaving me with about three and a half inches on the edge of the bed. :tongue:
His penis is mostly likely broken. Somehow, somewhere some one made an off color comment and broke his penis. Being a man he is unwilling and unable to discuss the fact he has performance issues, so he is just turned off from sex. Even a little bit of stress when he tried to perform and Mr. Stiffy was a wee bit of a limpy is enough to wreck a man for decades, leaving him limp in more ways than one.
The fact that he runs out to the garage to work on his hobbies is not indicative of homosexuality. It is indicative of a typical male attempting to do something to deal with emotional crap since men are not trained in dealing with emotional crap.
As for his saying 'That looks nice' it was a compliment.
Mind you, men are not trained in the art of complimenting women. We are, however, given voice lessons to scream 'Shake that Trunk Baby!' to any passing woman. We are also trained at making the wolf whistle. This training comes in high school Physical Education Classes in the locker room when us 'boys' brag about the sexual conquests we pretend to have had when in reality we are still wanking off in the bathroom hoping mom won't knock on the door asking 'are you ok in there???'.
Male mentality is not woman's mentality. We do not think about sex the same way you do. We can't we lack vaginas. Men do not approach problems the same way women do, men don't deal with emotions. Forget saying things that start off with " I feel....." we don't relate to it, we can't. Real men don't feel emotions.
Any amount of stress, be it financial, work, or (God forbid) emotional stress a man has can break his penis. When a man's penis breaks the world ends. End of story.
Men don't talk about their broken penis. Even in the era of Viarga and See Alice (She must be great even gay men See Alice) , few men are comfortable enough to talk about a broken Mr. Winky even when there is medicine to unbreak Mr. Winky. Talk to the wife about it - are you serious - that only happens in commercials and romance novels.
All marriage is same sex marriage.
Once you tie the knot with the old ball and chain its same sex, with the same person, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, decade after decade for the rest of your life. It no longer sounds fun, it sounds like a chore. When its put to you that way does having sex with hubby sound interesting?
Here we are in a world were you can marry the man you love and divorce him when ever you get tired of his foibles. I have to work three times as hard to get the same rights to be with the man I have been with for 14 years and legally I can't call him husband, but I put up with his foibles and a lot more like any wife does with her husband.
I do resent this. I resent it more when I hear of yet one more straight married couple just throwing in the towel and walking away when thousands of gay couples would leap at the chance to be in your shoes.
I have been with the same guy for 14 years. We have done couples counseling on more than one occasion.
Frankly, we have had years of no sex in this household. It happens. Of course we live with the Virus (he is positive and I am negative) its a big white elephant that sleeps in the middle of the bed. Well actually the big black lab and the gianormous Yorkie Schnauzer mix sleep in the middle of the bed leaving me with about three and a half inches on the edge of the bed. :tongue:
His penis is mostly likely broken. Somehow, somewhere some one made an off color comment and broke his penis. Being a man he is unwilling and unable to discuss the fact he has performance issues, so he is just turned off from sex. Even a little bit of stress when he tried to perform and Mr. Stiffy was a wee bit of a limpy is enough to wreck a man for decades, leaving him limp in more ways than one.
The fact that he runs out to the garage to work on his hobbies is not indicative of homosexuality. It is indicative of a typical male attempting to do something to deal with emotional crap since men are not trained in dealing with emotional crap.
As for his saying 'That looks nice' it was a compliment.
Mind you, men are not trained in the art of complimenting women. We are, however, given voice lessons to scream 'Shake that Trunk Baby!' to any passing woman. We are also trained at making the wolf whistle. This training comes in high school Physical Education Classes in the locker room when us 'boys' brag about the sexual conquests we pretend to have had when in reality we are still wanking off in the bathroom hoping mom won't knock on the door asking 'are you ok in there???'.
Male mentality is not woman's mentality. We do not think about sex the same way you do. We can't we lack vaginas. Men do not approach problems the same way women do, men don't deal with emotions. Forget saying things that start off with " I feel....." we don't relate to it, we can't. Real men don't feel emotions.
Any amount of stress, be it financial, work, or (God forbid) emotional stress a man has can break his penis. When a man's penis breaks the world ends. End of story.
Men don't talk about their broken penis. Even in the era of Viarga and See Alice (She must be great even gay men See Alice) , few men are comfortable enough to talk about a broken Mr. Winky even when there is medicine to unbreak Mr. Winky. Talk to the wife about it - are you serious - that only happens in commercials and romance novels.
All marriage is same sex marriage.
Once you tie the knot with the old ball and chain its same sex, with the same person, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, decade after decade for the rest of your life. It no longer sounds fun, it sounds like a chore. When its put to you that way does having sex with hubby sound interesting?
Here we are in a world were you can marry the man you love and divorce him when ever you get tired of his foibles. I have to work three times as hard to get the same rights to be with the man I have been with for 14 years and legally I can't call him husband, but I put up with his foibles and a lot more like any wife does with her husband.
I do resent this. I resent it more when I hear of yet one more straight married couple just throwing in the towel and walking away when thousands of gay couples would leap at the chance to be in your shoes.
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