If he truly has not acted on his desires, he is somewhat more likely to benefit from psychotherapy than someone who has been abusing children.
It bears repeating that there is a HUGE difference between an 18 and 70 year old having sex and an adult abusing the power differential he has over a child. Your friend has a serious mental disorder and, if he doesn't seek help, he's at high risk of committing a heinous crime and severely damaging an innocent child.
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I think that if he is not acting on his desires or looking at photos or porn of children engaged in acts with children that he is not doing anything wrong. I think that society has gotten so used to putting people down that have pedophilia desires that we just put them aside like they are monsters and then they think they are monsters and act on those desires because nobody takes the time to understand what they are going through.
Its just like saying that all gay men are drag queens and are going to dress up in a dress. Its just bullshit that we don't try and understand men with pedophilia feelings and help them through this and help them change. Instead we want them dead or get therapy. I mean what will a therapist really do for someone that is attracted to children?
I mean I read articles that say that pedophiles cannot change and don't want to change, yet if you are gay and suddenly you become straight how is that possible? I mean if someone who is a pedophile really wants to change I feel like it is possible. You can bash me for being pedophile friendly but that's just how I feel and I am sick of being one of those judge mental pricks that just acts like everyone else in society.
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I'm sorry but anything illegal like that is sickening to me and I hope that whatever happens justice will be done. I seriously think this thread should be closed as its just a bit sick.
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That is why its a confession room because that person doesn't have any other outlet to talk about this and you want to shut this down because you are uncomfortable with the subject? Then why respond if you are? Wow that just makes no sense at all.
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I'm beginning to think that there actually is no "friend," i.e., that the writer is the pedophile.
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Just for the record I wasn't saying he should get help so he can change but so he can hopefully control his harmful tendencies. I doubt that his desire can be changed, but I don't judge people by what they feel or desire but how they act on those feelings. Therapists can help with that, including with drugs (granted, I don't know how effective such treatments are as I have no experience with them and don't know anybody who has).
However, he doesn't have to be a slave to his desire, and I know there are some who have these feelings don't want them and fight hard against them and feel terrible guilt when they do act upon them, and to those people I give some pity & sympathy as I see them as cursed more than evil, much like I'd see a werewolf in Buffy or Harry Potter (who have a beast in them that can come out and destroy innocents, but they don't want to be that way and do everything they can to fight against it). Of course if they can't keep the beast under wraps then it's up to others to. And for those who "embrace the beast" well those people have my loathing and hatred.
Hopefully there's no need for me to point out why going after children sexually is completely different than going after adults, and why gays are just as justified in heterosexuals in not accepting acts of pedophilia.
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Anonymous, you post on an extremely controversial topic and you don't expect backlash?
Everything everyone has said is justified and your seemingly defence of paedophilia and your anonimity raise more questions than answer.
People have been touched and the react the way they do to this subject. Like I have said, there are no degrees of paedophilia...you are either a paedophile or you aren't, confess to being a paedophile as a 'FRIEND' then you ARE a paedophile and deserve to be treated with comtempt and disdain.
The way you are acting is absolutely disgraceful, attacking members for having an opinion...PERSONAL attacks are just not on.
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Okay I will just admit it then. Its not my friend and its is me and I am a gay pedophile and I knew that nobody would accept me for who I am and I know that people would look upon me as a monster just because I am attracted to young boys. I sometimes wish that I wasn't this way but I am and I sometimes do wish that I was dead and maybe some day soon I will be. I mean I have tried to get help and no therapist wants to see me. I have tried to turn myself in to the police but they say that they can't put me in jail unless I act on my desires with a child.
So how can I get help for this when nobody wants anything to do with me? I am a monster because I have these desires and yet I still am a monster when nobody wants to help me cure myself of this sick desire that I have. I wish 100 times over and over again that I wouldn't be this way, its not as easy as to say I can't be this way anymore. I wish it was that easy.
Call me whatever names you want and treat me like shit because I can't find a way to get help and create a better person for myself. You would have judged me from the start anyway and wouldn't care about me. Who cares that I was molested by a pedophile myself and is most likely the reason that I am a pedophile to this day. I handled this the wrong way, yet I knew that no matter what I was going to be judged and I accept that. God help my soul and I sure would hope that you looked down upon me with pitty.
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