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I agree, that my partner and I are equal but, I also think that in any long term relationship that works, one tends to give more than the other, and one naturally takes the helm as it were. Yes both have equal say, but if it comes to a disagreement, there is one of you that will give in and accept the bigger compromise, or simply go along with the plan.

That's a must, and that doesn't mean the other does not give in at times, just that one defers to the other more often when the choice is that of possible damage to the relationship, or where both are right, and it's simply a difference of opinions.