Am I a lesbian?? Please help!

[Confuseddotcom]

Hi, I am a 17 year old girl and has had only straight relationships, I have never had sex, gay or straight, however I have lately been getting some strong feelings towards my best friend, who is female. I am currently in a relationship with a male of the same age of 10 months. However when we are apart and I am not at school I feel I miss her more than him.
I also find myself talking and texting her a lot more than him and I spend most of the time thinking about her, however I cannot be sure if I am simply over thinking things because it is controversial?
The other day I saw her walking with another girl and I found myself getting jealous that she had gone on without me, I also like hugging her and talking to her, but cannot be sure how I feel please help!
I can also be 95% sure that she does not feel the same way, but I need to know how I feel first before I talk to her, and when/if I ever get the courage!!
Thank you

[pellaz]

HS is rumor central. If you would not be comfortable being out use caution who you talk to.

If your 95% sure she has no feelings I would move on.

It is possible to be attracted to guys and the girls. Be open to both if you dont know for sure, the priority is to figure it out now, not later in life which sex you can best have a successful relationship when you are ready to want one.

[Ind]

You might be a lesbian. You might be bi. Maybe you're just curious. Or you might be heterosexual just overthinking things. It might be that you miss her and text her a lot just because she's a really close friend. The truth is that it doesn't really matter that much. You will figure it out eventually, just give yourself time.

How do you feel about your bf? Do you enjoy being in a relationship with him? If you do, maybe it's worth giving it a chance before you make any bold moves.

Good luck!

[myapple]

You could be slightly bisexual. This exact same thing happened to two of my friends in high school and now one is a full blown lesbian and the other is bisexual. Discover your options. Definitely go with your gut feeling. If you think she doesn't feel the same way, move on.

[Rainbowmum]

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel.
I don't usually believe in labels, I would say you are just curious or bi.
Don't beat yourself up over who you are attracted to , life is too short for labels.

[gilhooly]

I would hate to live in a world which people didm't think was worth exploring. I fell madly in love with a straight guy in 1968. He decided he liked the idea of exploring sex with me. Since I am still madly in love with him, I guess our relationship worked. It was very strange at times since we spent hours insulting each other for being gay or straight or both, we never quite figured it out.

We relied heavily on a very bizarre sense of humor which both of us shared. No matter how many times we told each other to go to hell, we always ended in each others arms.

Everyone should explore their sexuality, you may find out you are in love with a transgendered porcupine. Go with your heart and you will never regret it. And have some fun. Bad times makes bad sex.

Good luck. Talk to her before she disappears from your life. You will always regret the ones that got away.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Hi, I am a 17 year old girl and has had only straight relationships, I have never had sex, gay or straight, however I have lately been getting some strong feelings towards my best friend, who is female. I am currently in a relationship with a male of the same age of 10 months. However when we are apart and I am not at school I feel I miss her more than him.
I also find myself talking and texting her a lot more than him and I spend most of the time thinking about her, however I cannot be sure if I am simply over thinking things because it is controversial?
The other day I saw her walking with another girl and I found myself getting jealous that she had gone on without me, I also like hugging her and talking to her, but cannot be sure how I feel please help!
I can also be 95% sure that she does not feel the same way, but I need to know how I feel first before I talk to her, and when/if I ever get the courage!!
Thank you

I barely know what I am feeling most of the time - How Am I (or anyone for that matter) supposed to know what you feel?

Sounds to me that you just have a good friend that you like to hang with. I'm not hearing things like:

"I can picture her and I living together, raising kids - carving out a life for Us."

Where's the sex? Yes I know, ironically enough I am always downplaying the sex in HomoSEXual - but then its usually guys who are asking this question and their focus is on the sex.

Do you have a sexual interest in her? Or is this all about emotional satisfaction, a little cuddling and buddy-buddy talking and stuff like that?

These are questions you need to ask yourself. Ultimately your sexual orientation is going to be what you identify it as.

No one can decide what you are feeling for you.

[matty7]

if you spend so much time together then you may be just interpreting the feelings as sexual, feeling jealous when someone so close to you spends time with another is normal really, she has been with her bf for sometime so if you tell her you have feelings for her now without been totally and 100% sure could cost you your freindship...really think about it first - gd luck