im a bit confused

[boomboy]

Basically, I'm a virgin but I'm in love with this girl and have been for at least a year. She's funny, hot and has a banging body but I don't have the balls to tell her.
The thing is I can't help but watch gay porn. Whenever I put porn on I end up on man on man action.
I keep having dreams and fantasies (even at work) of me being ties to a bed and blindfolded for a long period of time (maybe a weekend) and hot muscles young guys keep coming in and taking turns to fuck me in the ass or to ride my hard throbbing cock. This makes me hard and at work I had a huge rock on and couldn't do anything about it. The thought of these guys taking turns pounding my ass and mouth and cumming wherever they wanted makes me so hot and horny.
Does this make me gay even though I feel I love this girl or do I just need some sex?

Any help would be fantastic

[Dan1980]

Hi you may be bisexual. Have you ever had feeling for a man. It also may be a fantasty a lot of guys who are straight men have gay fantastys and it doesn't mean they are gay.

[boomboy]

I never see a guy in the street and think "he's hot" or any of the blokes I know I don't feel the same way as towards a woman but there's just something about cock the gets me going. I've also tried ass play and liked it a lot. Again, not sure what this means because in terms of people I know/see around its only women that I look toward sexually.

[Dan1980]

I think it's a fantasty. We all have fantastys.

[pellaz]

your gay if you can successfully have a same sex relationship.

[TomStatic]

ah i deffnetly thing your gay now
noting wrong with it either
gues su just gotta try a few things out ,

when i was in highshcool i use to have crushes on Girls
until randomly i was at a house party and ended up kissing a dude that got me

[boomboy]

Thanks for the help guys. Dan you say you think its just fantasy but do straight gays have gay fantasies and vice versa? I mean I never really fantasize about girls in the same depth as I did this gay one the other day. Am I just reading too much into this?

[Supernaut]

Am I just reading too much into this?

This.

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[Pix]

I'd say I'm 98% lesbian (used to be more 90%) and once in a blue moon I'll have a hetero sex fantasy (though it quickly passes). You might also find this article interesting:

http://www.utne.com/Mind-Body/21st-Centu...addam.aspx

Men’s interest in women’s bodies is well known, but the next visual cue may come as a surprise. Men are more interested in penises than women are. An eye-tracking study found that, when viewing nonerotic images, men consistently direct their gaze to the male crotch, through women rarely do. In porn, the penis is always under the spotlight. On the adult website Fantasti.cc, the predominantly male users rate more than
1 million images and videos. Out of the 100 top-rated images, 21 feature close-up shots of a penis. And on all of the major adult video sites, “Big Dick” is a popular porn category.

But men aren’t satisfied by checking out other men’s penises. They also like to flaunt their own. Chat Roulette is a website that allows users to randomly connect to other people around the world. Once you enter Chat Roulette, you see whatever other people have chosen to place in front of their webcams—a party, a cute kitten, an old man with a beard. One blogger recorded what he saw on 1,276 consecutive sessions: 298 webcams (about one in four) were aimed at a penis. Perhaps men are tapping into an ancient display mechanism we share with other primates.

While straight men have a deep-rooted fascination with penises, gay men are positively obsessed with them. Feet, butts, and chests are also highly popular in both gay and straight porn, as are domination, submission, group sex, amateurs, and numerous other interests. With so many parallels, Internet porn suggests that gay men share the same visual cues as straight men.

Forbidden acts have a very special power to arouse. Unlike anatomical cues, transgression is a psychological stimulus. Both sexes can get wildly turned on by situations that are immoral or dangerous, because of their immorality or dangerousness.

Consider the enormous popularity of cuckold porn—in which a man’s wife has sex with another man. Cuckold porn is the second most popular heterosexual interest on English-language search engines. Only youth is more popular. On PornHub, men who search for “cheating wife” view the greatest number of videos.

In cuckold porn, the boyfriend or husband almost always watches from the sidelines, usually with a look of frustration and dismay. Frequently, the wife calls out to her husband as she’s being serviced, touting the superior skills or better equipment of the bull—a common term for the cuckolder. Why would a straight man get turned on by watching a dominant, masculine man have sex with his wife? What makes a man’s sexual desire overcome his sexual jealousy? The science of biology offers one intriguing answer to these questions. Sperm competition.

Sperm competition refers to a variety of physiological and behavioral adaptations that enable a male’s sperm to compete with other males’ sperm to impregnate a female’s egg. If a man believes that his sexual partner may have been with a rival, he is driven to have sex with her as quickly and as vigorously as possible. In many species, the more dominant the potential rival, the stronger the sperm competition cue and the more intense the arousal

What drives straight men’s interest in T-girls? The T-girl is an erotical illusion that juxtaposes two kinds of male visual cues. First is a set of cues for femininity: breasts, butts, curvy figures, and feminine facial features and mannerisms. But there is another vivid cue: the penis. As we’ve learned, the penis has a special power to activate the male sexual brain. When you superimpose these two cues, the result is powerful.

And I'm not sure if it counts but I love all kinds of romantic stories (if they're done well), including the hetero kind and feel very sympathetic to hetero romance (and sex), though straight people have told me they can be the same (though it seems easier for women than for men, generally speaking).

I also took to writing erotica for the challenge to see if I could and because I felt there was too much femslash (and obviously written by guys) I wrote some of it as hetero ship (I loved the irony that so many straight men were writing lesbian femslash while I was the lesbian writing ships ), and mine were really popular (I even won first place, one for femslash, one for ship), too. And I "felt it" as I was writing it.

[azulai]

Hi, boomboy. Welcome to GS!

I think sexuality is a lot more fluid than we are "taught." Try to relax and give yourself some freedom to explore.

The thing that strikes me about your post isn't the viewing of gay porn or the desire for a good hard ride :tongue: but that you have feelings of love for this girl. You are not clear if this is someone you are dating or who is an acquaintance. If that's where your heart is right now, I say start there and go for it. Explore being in a relationship. Have some SAFE fun. I'm not just saying you need sexual experience, but mainly relational experience, building intimacy, that kind of stuff.

There's more to being gay than gay porn sex. There are some gay men who do not have anal sex. Are they any less gay? I don't think so. That's not to say you aren't or you are gay. There's no way we can say, it's for you to discover and answer for yourself.

There's no rush to put yourself in a box.