06-25-2012, 07:08 AM
So last summer at 16 I came out to my parents about being gay, after dating girls in the past. Now, I told them in a particularly harsh context. I got into an argument with my mom about a ruling saying she knew best. I told her she didn't even know me, and it just came out, along with telling her everyone knew but her. She said nothing in response. The next day, she told my father. She told me she was scared for me that she cared still etc. It was clear she wasn't okay with it, but felt the responsibility as a parent to care. Now, a day late she told me my brother had been told by a friend with an older sibling who knew me. She tried talking to me about it but it quickly escalated into an argument. I pulled my phone out and began texting. She grabbed the phone from my hands, while screaming that I was a fucking ass hole, I don't care and preceded to attempt to smash my phone withal hammer. My dad grabbed the phone from her and she lost it and began smashing droors, cabinets, everything. My dad grabbed her as i ran out the door
I came back to my mom cleaning up the mess, crying, saying she was sorry. See, I never truly forgave her for that. As I met a guy much older than me, 21, I lied when I was spending time with him. I picked one of my many friends, as I'm quite popular, and said I was with them. As I got closer we began dating I just continued lying out of fear of her reactio and punishments to his age and the fact that I was dating a man. Today marks our 6th months of being together. All of my friends know him and love him and we have all shared many good times together along with his friends and family, who openly accepts me. My mom however has been becoming more suspicious. Asking for pictures of me with friends in certain places to know I'm with them. First of all, I'm a 17 year old young man. I know I'm still a kid and have a lot to learn yet, but I'm particularly mature for my age. All my friends are at the least a year older than me, I work a full time job, get decent grades in school, scored a 25 on my act, own a car, and have plans all layed out for college, financially and academically. Upon my maturation I've learned that. Not telling my parents and lying for so long was a mistake on my part considering all they do for me. However, at this point I don't know a way around the lies. I don't even know how to present the truth because of my fear. This is my last hope for help, here. I fear my mom will be more mad of my lying than the fact now. So I beg for anyones help, how can I tell my family?
I came back to my mom cleaning up the mess, crying, saying she was sorry. See, I never truly forgave her for that. As I met a guy much older than me, 21, I lied when I was spending time with him. I picked one of my many friends, as I'm quite popular, and said I was with them. As I got closer we began dating I just continued lying out of fear of her reactio and punishments to his age and the fact that I was dating a man. Today marks our 6th months of being together. All of my friends know him and love him and we have all shared many good times together along with his friends and family, who openly accepts me. My mom however has been becoming more suspicious. Asking for pictures of me with friends in certain places to know I'm with them. First of all, I'm a 17 year old young man. I know I'm still a kid and have a lot to learn yet, but I'm particularly mature for my age. All my friends are at the least a year older than me, I work a full time job, get decent grades in school, scored a 25 on my act, own a car, and have plans all layed out for college, financially and academically. Upon my maturation I've learned that. Not telling my parents and lying for so long was a mistake on my part considering all they do for me. However, at this point I don't know a way around the lies. I don't even know how to present the truth because of my fear. This is my last hope for help, here. I fear my mom will be more mad of my lying than the fact now. So I beg for anyones help, how can I tell my family?