mihai Wrote:i know :redface: but guys that age even in highschool begin to have doubts and stuff i really think he should try just kissing a guy and a girl... this will elp him to convince himself of his sexuality and go on with it and never have doubts again
Being gay is always about who you kiss and who you have sex with. Being gay is about matters of the heart...LOVE...and if a 15 year old boy believe he will find his happiness in the arms of a man, than he deserves the respect to be able to persue that.
Yes, teen years are confusing, but there is no need to make things even more confusing, especially when you actually hear a 15 year old say that they are gay, what they are also saying is 'I want support.'
When I was 12 years old I fell in love for the first time, it was a summer romance. As a 43 year old man I reflect on that time and I have no doubts in my mind that it was my first and greatest love. We broke up and I was so devestated that I became reclusive. My mother prompted me for a reason and I told her 'I love Mark and he broke up with me.' then I heard those words 'It just a phase you are going through, you will like girls when you get older.'
The message in my mind 'It's not ok to be gay.' So it took me another 17 wasted years to come out again all because of those words 'It's a phase.'
As 'Thatwentwell' said himself, this has been a 3 year process for him and his feelings have remained unchanged, he would find himself happiest in the arms of someone of his own gender, and that is perfectly OK as well as normal