Need advice

[New6912]

Hey so new problem..
So I met this guy online, he seems interested in me^ and I'm kind of interested in him. How do I tell my mom about him?
I haven't really met him face to face yet, but he's 17 and I'm 16. I kind of have met a guy online once(awhile ago), and he turned out to be a predator. I guess me^ and my mom are worried that that'll happen again.

[Sylph]

Hello

I would personally make sure for definite, that this guy is around your age or atleast within a reasonable age. And for sure, make sure he's not a predator, especially since you've met one before.

I wouldn't say; "Mom come look at this guy I met online" , because unless she's able to met him in person, I wouldn't bring it up, especially if I'm not sure first.

My Mom and I are practically Sisters[lol]/twins, so she'd want to meet the guy in person.

I would say; "Mom, there's someone I'm interested in/involved with, but I'm still feeling him out right now" That way she knows that there's someone there, but it's not serious and that she'll meet him if it does become serious.

You should always let her know what's up, but unless your sure this guy's a keeper or atleast a long-term-er, then you shouldn't bring it up with your mother.

Could be other ways to go about it, but that's how I would do it. :biggrin:

[pellaz]

look up his FB
how long has he been on the web site, how many posts and read at his posts
ask him for a few more pictures or information, get his email?

meet in a public place
make sure your the one on top; your getting information not giving it away
if you dont feeL comfortable with the situation bail
how does he treat others or how does he speak of people he met, he will do the same to you
you have a separate email account for these situations?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Hey so new problem..
So I met this guy online, he seems interested in me^ and I'm kind of interested in him. How do I tell my mom about him?
I haven't really met him face to face yet, but he's 17 and I'm 16. I kind of have met a guy online once(awhile ago), and he turned out to be a predator. I guess me^ and my mom are worried that that'll happen again.

If he is 17 and you are 16 then a single year means he is not really a predator.

Back when I was a kid the world was too poor to have an online to meet people. We had to meet people face to face thus had a better idea of what we were getting involved with.

I suggest meeting face to face the first time in a public place, like a coffee shop. If he looks young, then chances are he is young.

Yes tell mom you met a fellow online and want to meet him face to face, she may have a few suggestions as to safe locations where you two can do the first face to face meeting.

[matty7]

theres no rule that you have to meet alone !! if u do decide to meet see if he will agree to a public place and with a friend - if he does not agree to either of these proposals then i would be very suspicious of him, at the very least tell freinds and family where u are going and what time u will ring them, you need to see a face picture of him too and share that with family - i hate to sound so cautious but as you already know - there are predators out there

[avidcyclistMTB]

See if he's willing to camera chat online if that's available to both of you. You'd get to see what he looks like, if indeed he is the age he says he is and your mom could get a look at him as well if need be. The way he handles that whole situation could tell a lot.

If you do indeed meet him, you know already to be cautious and a public place with a friend (or even your mom on the sidelines) along would be smart.

I'm jealous that you have such a great relationship with your mother, and very happy for you.

[New6912]

Thanks
The guy before told me he was 19 but was actually 24.