what's his trick playing on me?

[gayusasian]

i met this guy for almost 2 months.
we are facebook friends.
we chatted almost everyday on facebook.
we have a lot of things in common.
I am from China.
he just loves Asian culture.
his favorite food is Chinese. he loves Asian movies (I love a lot too).
of course, he loves Asian man.
we both like arts and museums too.
in one world, we're having a good time chatting and sharing interests on facebook.
sometimes, flirt a little bit.
we shared pictures. he said more than once that he thinks i am hot.
while, i think he is hot too.

but whenever i asked him out, he would keep silent (stop replying my messages).
we are very close. maybe 5-10 minutes driving.
honestly speaking, he's pretty busy.
but he definitely has time for a date, i know for sure because we chatted a lot.

i've tried 3 times to ask him out.
i don't think i would have the guts to ask again.
2 months, 3 invitations. even a girl wouldn't be that hard.

does anybody know what's his trick playing on me?
does he only want somebody to flirt with? to admire him? make him feel good?
does he want to be in a relationship?

i don't understand.
any explanations?

[WheresTheLove]

Maybe he just wants to be friends, but doesn't want to say "no" and hurt your feelings... that's all I can think of.

[ceez]

Maybe he just wants to be friends, but doesn't want to say "no" and hurt your feelings... that's all I can think of.

that's what I was thinking, or maybe he is not out yet or has the courage to date a guy out in a public place.

[gayusasian]

he had 4 boyfriends

[Nick9]

Hi,
there can be so many reasons. Some of them may be bad. Do you really want to know? If you enjoy your talk, and the talk itself is enough to make your day nicer, don't try to get to know the reasons.

[gayusasian]

i talked with him yesterday.
he said that we have too much desires for each other.
our dates would immediately become sex dates.
he doesn't want sex to be the foundation of our relationship.

it sounds reasonable.
but i still don't believe it.
anyway, it's hard to guess the real idea of another person.

i think the best strategy should be MOVE ON?

[gayusasian]

if what he says is true, then we should never meet.
sexual desire will always be there.

if we don't have any sexual desires for each other,
why don't i just date a women?
certain that it's pure friendship

[Nick9]

i think the best strategy should be MOVE ON?

move on like stop talking to him and look elsewhere?

If you see him just as a potential sex partner then yes. You are not the one he needs.

If you appreciate his company as a friend, then why would you do it?

[zeon]

Maybe he just wants to be friends, but doesn't want to say "no" and hurt your feelings... that's all I can think of.

I would be in agreement with this or maybe his not ready for a relationship yet however doesnt mean u cant look

[gayusasian]

move on like stop talking to him and look elsewhere?

If you see him just as a potential sex partner then yes. You are not the one he needs.

If you appreciate his company as a friend, then why would you do it?

keep talking with him as a friend.
don't expect too much from him.

and look elsewhere.