Bottoms, Topping

[ObnoxiousKid]

I don't have sex that often but when I do I'm normally a bottom, but sometimes my partner wants to bottom, but every time he wants too, as soon as the condom goes on I get soft or he can't get it in immediately and then I get soft lol, is this natural

I want to top but idk if I'm meant too

[WheresTheLove]

I had the same predicament when I tried topping once. I think I was so nervous that I couldn't get hard. The guy was really cute with a nice butt so there's no reason I shouldn't have wanted it.
Another reason could be that when I bottomed, it hurt and I didn't like it, so I just assume I'm a top now. But after that happened, I don't know. I think I got nervous because I didn't want to hurt him (even though this guy claims he had a lot of cocks go in there @.@).
And then it could be that I just don't like sex without a relationship, but I didn't want to let the opportunity slip.
Or maybe I wasn't used to wearing a condom, it was my first time wearing one.

Lost of possibilities there. :\ I want to try again though, with someone I really like.
If you've tried this several times and still can't.... I'd try again. But maybe you're right. I don't know.

[myapple]

Hmm are you not comfortable topping or something?

[mihai]

move with the flow I mean botom is much funier cause you are in comand of everything :redface:
Depends if you have a active botom/top Sex needs to be fun :tongue:
So just figure it out, not hta easy but it is ok :biggrin:
I figured i am a botom addict 1 year ago

[gayusasian]

maybe you need more foreplay.
some passionate kissing and caressing could get me erected for a long time.
try that. be passionate. the more you get aroused, the better erection you would possibly have

[ObnoxiousKid]

yea foreplay always gets me suppperrr horny haha

and I don't think it's because I'm nervous lol

[Sil]

Without cliche, I think this happens to every guy from time to time...

First few times I was a top I wasn't really into it, but after a while I found out it wasn't what I was doing, but the chemistry between the two roles. I've been a top and not heard a peep from people, and then you'll have other times when somebody is going crazy for it and loving it, and that just makes you get into it ten times more. It's weird, but encouragement goes a long way. I'd say ask your partner to talk dirty to you a little, let them tell you what they want and how it feels, without going into porno mode communication in sex is important I think.

There's more pressure on a top to perform too. Take it easy, relax, be confident in what you're doing. It's not an Olympic qualifier, it's just sex. If you enjoy it and feel comfortable, your partner will know and feel the same.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I don't have sex that often but when I do I'm normally a bottom, but sometimes my partner wants to bottom, but every time he wants too, as soon as the condom goes on I get soft or he can't get it in immediately and then I get soft lol, is this natural

I want to top but idk if I'm meant too

Odd. Would you also force yourself to have sex with a woman?

Top/Bottom is part of our sexuality. Your lack of interest in really topping is against your nature. As, I assume, having sex with a woman is.

There are certain personality characteristics to the roles we have in bed. Sex is far much more than a mechanical action of friction of the sex organ(s), what we do and how we do it affects us in many ways.

Most of sex takes place in the brain, not the penis (or vagina). There is more to the role of being a top or being a bottom then what body part is being friction-alized.

[ardus]

When it comes to sexual roles I think we, and by we I mean the Gay community pay way too much attention to it.
That being said here's my experience.
I am normally a top, I have only been a bottom one time. The one time I was a bottom it was with a guy I really liked and it was quite painful, but also quite pleasureable. I don't know if it's because I am not used to it, or if it's an innate thing. I do know that in the future with guys I like I will be more willing to be a bottom because of that experience.
You should, in my opinion, do what you like, and also make sure your partner understands what you like.
In my experience most men, like to please their partners, those that don't are probably trouble in other ways.
Richard

[Mr. Not So Lonely]

This may sound strange or not but if you love this person and you wish to give them what they want ...... well lets say there are certain attachments you can buy to help you do this . I do not want to be crude but it is the truth.