Venting

[futureRD]

I know I should be happy for my boyfriend. He just graduated and his parents (who don't know he is gay let alone know I even exist) are paying his way to Hawaii for a review course for his boards exam and his boss is giving him paid time off.

I'll be in class and can't even afford a plane ticket. I feel jealous and I know I shouldn't, but he is doing something we talked about doing together after we have saved up some money.

He spends all the holidays that I care about with his family. I see him more often but it has always been during periods where we've been in school.... as the years pass we are spending less and less time together.

I just need to get over it and stop being such a selfish twit.

[Mark]

Doesnt strike me as selfish.. He has an opportunity you dont. You planned to do it together, work for it but he got given it.. Basically if you can achieve it on your own then woah, it will be much better for you :biggrin:

As to spending time, you love him right? Its only normal you want to be with him on special times. So dont be so hard on yourself.!

[spotysocks]

Yes , i agree with Salty. Although i understand why he might not be out to his parents at the same time it is not ideal for any relationship. Best part of a relationship is to present your partner and be proud of him and yourself. It is not that often this happens though so i d say fair enough.

I would be jealous too if the bf was going by himself somewhere we were planning to go together- just because i would want to spent this fun time with him! I wouldnt think it is selfish. It's about wanting to create lovely memories with whom you love.

However i would suggest if there is no other way go with the flow and be happy for him. Hopefully you will plan a nice holiday to go together when time allows. mile:

[futureRD]

ahhhh I'm already over it. We decided to do an Alaskan cruise together... I'm still jealous, but I'm not angry. I am happy for him.... but it's all water under the bridge . . . for now. We'll see what happens when he leaves for a week during the end of january.

[Enigma]

Don't forget....."Absence makes the heart grow fonder"

[pocket_pilgrim]

well it seems the venting is already over! which is, of course, good! i agree with everyone here, especially spoty. the worst part is that he is not out yet though i'm sure in the future that will change and then you will be able to tell them yourself that you already had plans to go to brazil with him, so no can do on the hawaii thing :biggrin:

you're not selfish. just sad to miss time by his side in a nice setting.

[voice]

It's a bummer he's spending all the holidays you care about with his family and not you. How long have you two been dating? Do you live together?

*whispers* ...if it were me I'd turn up at the family home, swing open the door and yell "surprise"...

[cantwaitfor09]

Situations like yours are never easy. All you can do, is just enjoy the hell out of the time that you DO get to spend with him. He is going to Hawaii, and though you may not want to be, you are jealous of him. It's either that, AND/OR you want to go with him more than anything in the world. That's completely understandable. That's hard too. Here's what I think (my opinion doesn't mean much, by the way), you should be supportive of him, and his trip, and he will see this effort you are making, and he will like you even more for it.