Just wondering if anyone here has experienced these- do they feel good?
Since I don't like recieving anal (when I did it just hurt...), I never have, and if I do anally masturbate, I don't think I go far enough to reach the prostate. In most porn I've seen, the bottom never seems to get hard. =\ I know that it's porn and they could pay a top to bottom even if he hates it (or hell, they can pay a straight guy to do it). Does it ever feel good to where you just cum before the top does?
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Yes, I have a couple times. It really is the most intense orgasms, even though I'm normally a top.
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Only ever had this once, and with my current boyfriend. It was an amazing feeling.
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How exactly do you get them? Just get fucked until it feels good?
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For me, it happens when I am really in the mood for it and and he hits my prostate in just the right ways lol. I guess it is like the male g-spot :p
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Hands-free would mean that you get the orgasm without stimulating your own penis.
Yes, these orgasms do happen, but they are not necessarily very easy to obtain ie without any hand stimulation at all. If you massage your prostate or get someone to massage it with a finger then it's still not hands-free, to be accurate. But I don't know if that's the whole purpose anyway. Getting an orgasm is generally what people want, whichever way it is obtained.
What hands-free generally means, in fact, is that the stimulation inside from a sex toy, or a penis is so strong that it triggers off the orgasm response and the subsequent ejaculation. Note that it is also possible to have an orgasm like this but without the ejaculate. The orgasm comes from the intensity of the stimulation and the subsequent muscular release. If the prostate has been 'milked' recently, there may be no semen to ejaculate at that point.
I think it is also possible to talk of a hands-free orgasm (and ejaculation) loosely when the penis has been stimulated to some extent but when the last thrusts of the partner's penis or the toy are the sole stimulation to trigger off the ejaculation or orgasm. If you've heard of Corbin Fisher, one of their models, Travis, is well-known for achieving this sort of ejaculation. But this is porn, so it may not appeal to you.
About the bottom being limp, it also happens quite often because penetration slows the flow of blood to the penis, or because the pleasure centres are displaced by different stimulation to the anus and bottom, and prostate regions rather than the penis itself. But honestly, it is perfectly possible to have a full erection while being penetrated, and many porn models who bottom do. Mind you, sometimes the camera angle is such that you might think that they are being penetrated when in fact they are not... so, it could be clever photography rather than proper erectile function.
Unfortunately, in your case, WheresTheLove, if you don't enjoy bottoming, it'll probably be hard to achieve this. But I'm sure you could if you managed to relax well and used plenty of lube, with a sex toy, or prostate massage device for instance.
One last point, I believe it's also probably a question of size: girth and length of the penis or object you use for penetration, and also of angle. If you are hitting the wrong area or spot, you'd never feel anything, as the rectum is not specially sensitive to pain (or to pleasure), unlike the anus area. The prostate is toward the front wall of your rectum, not toward your back, so anything brushing in an inclination towards the front wall would hit the prostate. Some men have penises that are bent down rather than upward, so getting the partner's penis to hit the right spot may require changing a missionary position, say, to a doggy position. It really is a question of angle and whether the stimulator is long enough to press against that organ.
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