07-25-2012, 09:02 PM
Hi everyone it’s been a long time since I turned to this forum for help and the feedback you all gave me was really appreciated! I hope this can be repeated in my latest life dilemma lol.
Well I started a new job around last week and mostly what I do is reception duty and I work in the transport department too. When I went for my first days orientation last week I noticed this cute guy who comes in and helps out part time. Now when it comes to trying to start a relationship I prefer a strong friendship before attempting to take it further.
I’ll try to do a timeline now of my interactions with him and then conclude on why I am so confused by him. I haven’t known him that long so it’s possible this might also be a factor in my confusion :/
1) The first day I saw him he was sat opposite me from reception (with his back to me) and, yes, I was looking at him. A few seconds later he turned to look at me (he knew I was in there btw) and I just tried to make it look like I was looking around reception.
2) Next, I was in the kitchen area making a drink. He turned up at the door (I thought he might say hi at least and we could have a conversation) but he looked at me, I think started to look a little nervous, and put down on the side what he was carrying in.
3) My next interaction with him I was taken off by the midday receptionist and I was asking her if she wanted a drink. He was coming through the main lobby door and saw me and held the door open for me. Unfortunately I wasn’t ready to leave and spent 15ish seconds writing down what the receptionist wanted to drink. Once I was ready (he was still holding the door open) I walked past him and smiled, nodded (a stupid habit I've had since a kid lol) and said thanks. He smiled and said ‘no problem’ and I went into the kitchen area.
4) I think my next interaction was when I was asked to join the manager (and this guy) in a discussion. The manager asked him to show me where something was upstairs. He went through the door first and held it open for me; he got about half way up the stairs turned round, told me his name, and we shook hands. I told him it was nice to meet him. He was quiet on the way up and I said hi to a colleague and my colleague said hi to this guy and all he got was a quiet hi. Well he laughed at one of my stupid jokes on the way back down (but for the most part was quiet). Now when we got to the bottom of the stairs he held the door open (I expected him to go through) but he didn’t he held the door open for me and smiled and I said thanks.
5) The next time I saw him he was in the kitchen and I was going in to make drinks for people. He saw me (went a little wide eyed I think) and looked a little nervous. Well I asked him if he wanted a drink and started to have a great conversation with him. I wasn’t able to maintain eye contact with him all the time but I did now and again. He opened up and talked a little bit about himself and his interests and was smiling all the while he was talking. It was a little of a one way conversation and I sort of ran out of ideas (I was a bit nervous myself, really). Well he left when I ran out of ideas and said I could come and sit in with a group he was mentoring because I have previously said I had nothing to do. My great luck I was given a task to do by manager and was not able to come and sit in with him.
Now this is where it gets odd:
6) I saw him I think the day after and he was glancing at me from time to time but I was a little busy doing my work. At the end of his meeting I tried to make eye contact with him so I could say hi and explain why I wasn’t able to come and sit in with him. I met his eyes once and immediately; he turned his eyes to the right and then down to the ground (he did this 2 or 3 times). I was a bit annoyed honestly at this and decided to not bother with him anymore that day. I did see him once more in reception when I was getting something out of my bag he was talking to the manager and had his body turned to me but I just walked past him.
7) The next day I was on reception and just around when a group was about to start I looked up from reception (he must have seen me through the windows) and he walked straight past the door! And I was thinking WTF? lol. I mean why not just come in and sign in? I can only guess he was trying to get in through the back door and avoid me. Well I have no time for games and went back to work and about 1 minute later he comes through the door to sign in. I said hi to him and he said hi (and smiled). We had a bit of a chat but he was walking to the other door and I just left it at that. He stood and looked at me for a while, while I went back to work. Well what was I supposed to say if he wanted to get to his group. He took his seat with his back to me again.
I just really want to know why he seems to be hot, cold and then hot again? I think he’s around 21; just a few years younger than me. And also why would he not look at me and then walk straight past reception to avoid me? I’ve never had anyone treat me like that before.
I mean yes he’s cute but I would value his friendship above anything else :/ sometimes I have to go into his group if I need to talk to one of the participants in there. He notices me and turns to me but I think honestly he’s just a little surprised to see me in there.
Does anyone think he’s worth trying to make friends with? And if he dislikes me then why not just say so?
I’m sorry this is a long read everyone I’ve tried to condense it as much as I can. I’ll try to answer any more questions you have but as I’ve only known him for a few days that might not be possible. Any help will be really great! thanks.
Well I started a new job around last week and mostly what I do is reception duty and I work in the transport department too. When I went for my first days orientation last week I noticed this cute guy who comes in and helps out part time. Now when it comes to trying to start a relationship I prefer a strong friendship before attempting to take it further.
I’ll try to do a timeline now of my interactions with him and then conclude on why I am so confused by him. I haven’t known him that long so it’s possible this might also be a factor in my confusion :/
1) The first day I saw him he was sat opposite me from reception (with his back to me) and, yes, I was looking at him. A few seconds later he turned to look at me (he knew I was in there btw) and I just tried to make it look like I was looking around reception.
2) Next, I was in the kitchen area making a drink. He turned up at the door (I thought he might say hi at least and we could have a conversation) but he looked at me, I think started to look a little nervous, and put down on the side what he was carrying in.
3) My next interaction with him I was taken off by the midday receptionist and I was asking her if she wanted a drink. He was coming through the main lobby door and saw me and held the door open for me. Unfortunately I wasn’t ready to leave and spent 15ish seconds writing down what the receptionist wanted to drink. Once I was ready (he was still holding the door open) I walked past him and smiled, nodded (a stupid habit I've had since a kid lol) and said thanks. He smiled and said ‘no problem’ and I went into the kitchen area.
4) I think my next interaction was when I was asked to join the manager (and this guy) in a discussion. The manager asked him to show me where something was upstairs. He went through the door first and held it open for me; he got about half way up the stairs turned round, told me his name, and we shook hands. I told him it was nice to meet him. He was quiet on the way up and I said hi to a colleague and my colleague said hi to this guy and all he got was a quiet hi. Well he laughed at one of my stupid jokes on the way back down (but for the most part was quiet). Now when we got to the bottom of the stairs he held the door open (I expected him to go through) but he didn’t he held the door open for me and smiled and I said thanks.
5) The next time I saw him he was in the kitchen and I was going in to make drinks for people. He saw me (went a little wide eyed I think) and looked a little nervous. Well I asked him if he wanted a drink and started to have a great conversation with him. I wasn’t able to maintain eye contact with him all the time but I did now and again. He opened up and talked a little bit about himself and his interests and was smiling all the while he was talking. It was a little of a one way conversation and I sort of ran out of ideas (I was a bit nervous myself, really). Well he left when I ran out of ideas and said I could come and sit in with a group he was mentoring because I have previously said I had nothing to do. My great luck I was given a task to do by manager and was not able to come and sit in with him.
Now this is where it gets odd:
6) I saw him I think the day after and he was glancing at me from time to time but I was a little busy doing my work. At the end of his meeting I tried to make eye contact with him so I could say hi and explain why I wasn’t able to come and sit in with him. I met his eyes once and immediately; he turned his eyes to the right and then down to the ground (he did this 2 or 3 times). I was a bit annoyed honestly at this and decided to not bother with him anymore that day. I did see him once more in reception when I was getting something out of my bag he was talking to the manager and had his body turned to me but I just walked past him.
7) The next day I was on reception and just around when a group was about to start I looked up from reception (he must have seen me through the windows) and he walked straight past the door! And I was thinking WTF? lol. I mean why not just come in and sign in? I can only guess he was trying to get in through the back door and avoid me. Well I have no time for games and went back to work and about 1 minute later he comes through the door to sign in. I said hi to him and he said hi (and smiled). We had a bit of a chat but he was walking to the other door and I just left it at that. He stood and looked at me for a while, while I went back to work. Well what was I supposed to say if he wanted to get to his group. He took his seat with his back to me again.
I just really want to know why he seems to be hot, cold and then hot again? I think he’s around 21; just a few years younger than me. And also why would he not look at me and then walk straight past reception to avoid me? I’ve never had anyone treat me like that before.
I mean yes he’s cute but I would value his friendship above anything else :/ sometimes I have to go into his group if I need to talk to one of the participants in there. He notices me and turns to me but I think honestly he’s just a little surprised to see me in there.
Does anyone think he’s worth trying to make friends with? And if he dislikes me then why not just say so?
I’m sorry this is a long read everyone I’ve tried to condense it as much as I can. I’ll try to answer any more questions you have but as I’ve only known him for a few days that might not be possible. Any help will be really great! thanks.