Bald gay guys in your 20's - Please tell me my dating life isn't over

[Ind]

Shaved head can look VERY hot. If I were to date someone, one of the last things I care about is male pattern baldness. Really.

Also, if you think of it, you don't have to worry about going bald now. Once I get a partner, he'll have to deal with me going bald whenever the time comes. What if I can't pull off a shaved head? You, on the other hand, won't have such issues mile:

[pellaz]

welcome to gayspeak
eventually most everyone goes bald then you die. In between all this you are allowed to love yourself.
you show confidence, kindness, men will wait in line for you and want to know you.

[LatinCoffee]

Guys,

I used to be insecure because of me being bald, etc. But not anymore...I get more attention now lol

[Tman24]

Guys,

I used to be insecure because of me being bald, etc. But not anymore...I get more attention now lol

How did you get over it?

[Pix]

One guy I knew said he went bald early like you, but the only thing that bothered him was that he was a "metal head" and his family wouldn't let him grow his hair out and then he did a short term in the military to stay out of jail and then decided he was free to grow his hair out...but his hairline was already receding. He said he felt that was so unfair. But he shared with me about one night stands and even close relationships so it didn't seem to be a barrier for him in that respect. And while straight he said one time in his early 20s (and balding, though I don't know how far along he was as I didn't meet him until he was in his late 30s) he tried to be bi as he thought the bi had the best of both worlds. It didn't work, but from the sound of it he had no trouble finding guys to have sex with and he said one his age even stalked him for awhile after.

I wonder, how much is baldness a turn off and how much is self-consciousness over it a turn off? I know there are a few women (and gay men) who find having hair to run fingers through very important (as opposed to something nice), though OTOH I know a woman who said she found bald guys sexy and loved running her hands over a guy's hairless head.

I'm betting that in most cases it's more attitude. I base that on my own reaction to not finding guys who constantly trying to hide their baldness (who really thinks a comb over helps?) appealing but other guys who don't think about it don't have me thinking about it either. Heck, I actually LIKE (in a non sexual way) the way Patrick Stewart, Michael Clarke Duncan, and Vin Diesel look, they're very distinguished and I think hair would actually detract from that, as were the characters Gunn (in Angel) and Principal Wood (Buffy the Vampire Slayer), though in their case I think hair just didn't matter. Of course they all have self-confidence and don't cringe over their baldness and I don't doubt that has a lot to do with why I (and many others) find it appealing.

[Maxx]

Ah! I sure feel the need to reply to this! You know what they say eh, no matter how shitty your situation is, there's always someone worst off. And in this case, its ME! lol

Yup, I put an happy face there. Because guess what, my reply to you is super positive. I am 21 (TWENTY ONE!) and am mostly bald to the point where I have to keep it clean shaven at all times. I am not going to go and pretend I'm not self-conscious about it, of course I am! But I can assure you that not only won't it be a problem for you, but you're just as lucky as everyone else! My last boyfriend had his full head of hair and always maintained that he did not mind my lack of hair at all and that he was very attracted to me (which he always made a point to prove lol). I often wear hats and he would tell me he preferred me without my hat.

And NOW, things are even better. I am currently dating the HOTTEST GUY I've ever seen. Not only does he have a thick head of hair, but he's build and he's drop-dead gorgeous lol. I can't even believe it's happening! lol. Again, I often wear hats and was rather uncomfortable when it came to going to bed with him or swimming or whatever, but he too makes me feel like it is ok. He's still attracted to me and it really does not seem to bother him. There is hope buddy, there is hope!

I really do feel your pain, it's a HORRIBLE situation to be in. All those guys saying it shouldnt be hard obviously don't know how it feels. But from someone who does and who's been very lucky, I can assure you that we're not worst off! Yep, try to be confident about it (I struggle everyday and still, look at me! lol) and keep your chin up and a smile on your face!

Good luck

Maxx

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Shaved heads were all the rage in the late 1980's early 1990's, it was in support of victims of HIV/AIDS.

Lots of guys with hair shave it off and have no problem picking up dates.

There is even a line of product to make it more sexy: http://www.headblade.com/

My Partner is 'thinning' up there, has been thinning since his hair started becoming wavy back in his late teens (it waves bye, bye as it leaves). He went bald for a few years and got hit on all the time.

You just have to have the right shaped head I suppose. :tongue: If you have a conehead you are S.O.L.:

[santaberry]

I think it can be sexy.

[LatinCoffee]

How did you get over it?

Learned to love myself as I was made by God to look and be.

[Tman24]

well, thanks for the replies guys it's helped somewhat