Well you can bring your lover with you and let them know you are spoken for
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I guess I would need to know what flirting means to you as I think it means different things to different people.
I am a natural flirt and that is pretty much a prerequisite if you are gonna successfully bartend in a gay bar...but I am NOT a Jerry Springer guest waiting to happen...I am an ethical slut:biggrin:
Meaning...If you are with someone else...I do not flirt with you. It is disrespectful to the partner. If you are a couple and you both flirt with me then OK but only if it isn't creepy and there is no underlying competitive or jealousy thing going on....
Just remember...you have no control over what other people do but you do have control in how you respond to what other people do.
If you do go for any reason and he does flirt with you.....I would just smile and blow it off...or in a flirty manner tell him that he is barking up the wrong tree. Try not to be defensive or angry or uptight about it because that could be a sign that you are "protesting too much"
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Archubbycub, I'm guessing you are still uncomfortable with the whole thing and since flirting with guys does not come naturally, you're worried. But do you have any guarantee that anyone will want to hook up with you? As East so clearly stated, you are responsible for your own acts, and behaviour, but you can't stop someone else being attracted to you if that's what on their mind. The polite thing is to engage the conversation on another subject and see if there's any other reason to like these people, past the sexual attraction thing... Since you're not looking for a relationship, either they'll find you to be a good friend to talk to, or they'll disengage from the conversation and go looking elsewhere for their bit of fun. No need to be catty about it, unless drunkenness or drugs make them a bit too clingy. Firm but not catty. Roar!!!!
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