So apparently my mother has been seeing this therapist ever since I came out. Mind you, if that's what helps her cope, then whatever! But tonight I find out that this so called "therapist" thinks that I may have been raped or molested either as a child or teenager and that's why I'm gay!
That really pisses me off. First of all, if I had been raped or molested as a child or teenager would it not stand to reason that if it was man that did it I would be completely turned off by the thought of having sex with a guy? And secondly, where does this quack get off diagnosing me. I don't know this person from the Pope and they sure as hell don't know me! What gives them the right?
Also I found out today that my mom posted about my birthday on Facebook yesterday and said that she wish she could go back and figure out what went wrong and that I'm not the son she
raised! And people wonder why I drink! Sheesh!!!
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archubbycub sorry for this BS... this is a hard post to read. Ignorance. Pure ignorance.
On the other hand, if "people wonder why" you drink does that mean it's a problem for you or them? Drinking is one thing...drinking to cope with pain is another. I hope you'll be cool and know people care no matter what. The picture your post paints pisses me off too. Hope mom wakes up!! And fuck that therapist, he's a danger to society and snake oil after your mom's money!
I'd almost like to find out who the therapist is and confront them myself to help save the world!
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Thanks for the love guys. And Rox, don't worry, I really don't have a drinking problem. I only drink socially and that only every once in a while. That statement about people wondering about it is something my dad use to say when he got frustrated about something. Honest!
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As far as my mom goes, I don't think she'll ever change. She's so brain washed by her "religion" that she can't see the forest for the trees.
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Two things:
One, that therapist is both ignorant and/or unprofessional (I'll leave out the "ignorance" only if it's instead him catering to your mother's ignorance by telling her whatever she wants to hear so she keeps paying hundreds of dollars a month for validation, and offhand I can't tell which is worse, genuine incompetence or mercenary catering to someone's homophobia instead of trying to help her become able to cope with it, and hopefully a better person in the process).
Two, your mother really needs 3 words stat: "Get over it." Oh, and it might not hurt to remind her of the Golden Rule, not judging others, and her own flaws ("the beam in her eye than the splinter in her neighbor's"), which you can find in Matthew 7 if you feel so inclined.
And btw, on the off chance she's divorced for any other reason than her committing adultery (MAYBE her husband being the adulterer, but taken at face value Jesus said the woman and not the man) and then remarried then she's an adulterer and living in sin as much as anyone gay and God looks at her just as he would any lesbian or gay man (see Matthew 5:32 and there are other verses that repeat that).
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Again everyone, thanks for the love. I really do appreciate it. I did text my mom earlier and told her I was very upset over the things I had found out today. Her response was that she still loved me, gay or not, but that I wasn't raised to treat people the way I'm treating them, whatever that means. I have yet to respond back but I want to tell her I'm simply doing what I have to do to protect myself physically and emotionally. Lord knows very few others in my life right now are going to.
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