Cousin

[hank]

Thanks everyone.

I have not mentioned anything about my sexuality to anyone in the family at anytime. We come from a very charismatic christian family, even some ordained ministers in the family, so mentioning sexuality would not go over well. Besides our family isn't that close. I'm pretty sure his parents know about him but they have never told me or my other family members. I could bring up gay marriage. It's worth a try.

I actually have family members that molested me, my cousin being one. His father asked me "how could you like men?" I told him, "your son knows the answer to that." Needless to say I didn't visit my uncle much.

[GossamerMoon]

Slightly off topic...

You know, all this talk about assuming the cousin is gay due to his Facebook page and feed... Um, I think I need to be a little more careful with mine. I have the excuse that I have a lot of gay friends... oh, wait... Um, I'll be back...

(Only out to a select few friends...)

[pellaz]

... family members that molested me, my cousin being one ...

none consenting relations are bad in and outside the family.

[ChadCoxRox]

I actually have family members that molested me, my cousin being one. His father asked me "how could you like men?" I told him, "your son knows the answer to that." Needless to say I didn't visit my uncle much.

ooops upside that head...I said ooops upside that nappy head!

[ChadCoxRox]

Slightly off topic...

You know, all this talk about assuming the cousin is gay due to his Facebook page and feed... Um, I think I need to be a little more careful with mine. I have the excuse that I have a lot of gay friends... oh, wait... Um, I'll be back...

(Only out to a select few friends...)

My "real" FB has security to the hilt and NO references. Couldn't BARE triggering the H8...yet. Maybe AFTER the ones I respect pass on??? hmmm

But yeah, one must use some mature judgment. Social media is specifically public unless plainly claimed otherwise and even then there's no iron clad promise in the world that would get past my chosen boundaries!

[Rawr]

I'm assuming when you guys hang out, you now and then grab something to eat or drink? That's always a decent time for conversations. Like others have stated, ask him about 'gay' topics and see his response. If you're too shy to ask about it, then maybe ease into the conversation. Read the paper or find something relative etc... You could possibly mention in a talk of politics? I've seen a few thread mention it here. Anyhow, good luck. I hope you gain the advice you seek.

[Rawr]

This slipped my mind due to concentrating on the topic at hand. But you said you might be gay? I know you may want to discuss this type of stuff more with your cousin. But Gay speak has a lot of insightful people and it's always nice to get different views of different people to get better understanding. So if you have any other questions on your sexuality or what ever, feel free to create a new thread or two.

Also, double post

[TomStatic]

Hmm he is family so i guess just message him saying i know we dont talk much but i would like to tell you somthing important to me

[zeon]

Hello,
I think the cousin of yours is the first person you can come out to... Whewn the moment is right just say can i ask ya a question? How would you feel if i was honest and told you something ive taken years to realise and accept and that is that I am gay? You can then state to him that you have seen him with the rainbow flag and LBGT bits and pieces and giving an open minded conversation i mean if he goes mad then say if you didnt like gays you wouldnt be around loads of rainbow flags would ya sister * clicky hand action*

[Double007]

So, my cousin works at a restaurant here in town and I went to visit him yesterday but he and the entire place was too busy. I told him I would connect with him later. I figure we might talk then I can bring up the subject. If I don't have the opportunity, I'm also taking a Psychology of Sexual Orientation class and when he asks what I have been up to, I can tell him about the class. Maybe that will get things rolling. I'll keep you posted.