Is it possible for feelings to change?

[Buring]

To be honest, I am really afraid!
I don't know why, this girl and I been friends a short yes...And she seems to get me feeling...Something I feel for men for what reason I do not know.

At the same time, I also REALLY like a friend of mine who is also gay...Been friends with him for years, but so afraid to say anything to him since it's a long distance relationship.

I feel as if my life has been torn in two sections, I could simply go with the person I just met..Whose a girl, which is the ONLY girl i've ever felt this way to...Or go with a guy that i've been having a crush on for maybe 4 years now.
Ek....I must be one of the most messed up people on the planet -.o

[ceez]

out of the billions of people on this earth I doubt it. just think of it as the start of another one of life's adventures.

[Blue]

Slow down, break it down. What exactly do you want with whom?

Do you want sex with one and love with the other?

Which one would you want to party and have fun with if you could have just one?

Who can you best see yourself growing old with at your side?

Bi is entirely possible, and it might be that you want the emotional side of a relationship with one and, the physical side with the other.

All of that is a part of sexuality, and we can be anywhere on the scale, or off on a side trail all our own. As confusing as it can be, none of it is wrong, it's just you.

As for being the most messed up person on the planet - nah, I got you beat on that one :tongue:

[Buring]

Slow down, break it down. What exactly do you want with whom?

Do you want sex with one and love with the other?

Which one would you want to party and have fun with if you could have just one?

Who can you best see yourself growing old with at your side?

Bi is entirely possible, and it might be that you want the emotional side of a relationship with one and, the physical side with the other.

All of that is a part of sexuality, and we can be anywhere on the scale, or off on a side trail all our own. As confusing as it can be, none of it is wrong, it's just you.

As for being the most messed up person on the planet - nah, I got you beat on that one :tongue:

Well that's something I have thought about...
I've pictured me and this guy together...Doing stuff a lot!
For almost the whole 2 years my crush first started.

As for this lady friend of mine....I thought of it, and it just really interests me while I don't get sick to my stomach when thinking of stuff like that with her.
I honestly, always just got sick when I thought of doing stuff with woman in that perspective, with men it was natural.
But for some reason, this ONE girl is different and I can't find out why.

But at the same time, I have a both mental / physical feeling for my friend...
I honestly can't say for sure what my feelings are about the girl though, which it's somewhat confusion.

[Blue]

Well, were I in your place, I'd explore the possibilities with the lady. She is there and, with a long distance crush it's human nature to put them on a pedestal. WE can imagine them being any way we want them to be in and out of bed. The reality rarely lives up to what we imagine.

Maybe you and she will just be platonic friends, and share that kind of love, maybe there's more there. Could you live the rest of your life wondering what might have been or, would you rather explore it an know the answer, even if it doesn't work out?

[Buring]

I guess I can try and find out!
It won't hurt, though...The reason I feel real uneasy around girls is probably because when I was in middle school I piratically got tortured by them :|

Though, if I find out this guy has feelings for me I will just 100% go with him....I really love this guy have for the 2 years I started this crush, talk to him a lot.
Though he lives in Nebraska, I would ttly be willing to simply drop everything and move down there.

I think I am just, crazy stupid in love with this guy :|

[Bricg1970]

Hi, I am a more or less in your position that I feel great with my wife, we share increible time together but in the other hand there is no sexual attraction and lately is harder. I read the other day about the integrity in sexuality, you can´t be with someone for one think and with another person for another think, because in order to realize completely your sexuality you need to find someone that can provide both or your will lack of integrity in your life, is like the husband that want a family life with his wife and a relationship with a men at the same time at the end it will crash, screwing up other people´s lifes

[snugsy]

I say screw labels and let it all happen natrually. THat is one of the tricks of coming out. I think it is possible for someone to come out before they really know for sure what they want. And then suddenly they have this sexual identity label.

When self-labeled we're expected (by our friends and ourselves) to fulfil this label. But this is hogwash. If you find out later that there is a definite possibility that you might be able to connect physically and emotionally with both sexes then so be it. A lot of us humans know very little about ourselves and are still discovering new things about ourselves and the ways in which we change over time.

Maybe she is a possibility, maybe you find her sexually attractive as well as emotionally attractive. And if so. Thats awesome!
Maybe you don't. Maybe she's just a platonic lady friend crush. Which is really quite normal. and also awesome (You don't have to want to sleep with everyone you admire)
And maybe she's just going to be a really cool friend and supporter for you. Which is also awesome.

That's whats so great about this life thing. Endless possibilities. Don't let the labels that you and society puts on you constrict your personal discovery process. Labels are useful once we understand ourselves, but i think they also constrict our ability to learn more about ourselves.

[pellaz]

... I think I am just, crazy stupid in love with this guy :|

excellent......

[nguyenkm]

Slow down, break it down. What exactly do you want with whom?

Do you want sex with one and love with the other?

Which one would you want to party and have fun with if you could have just one?

Who can you best see yourself growing old with at your side?

Bi is entirely possible, and it might be that you want the emotional side of a relationship with one and, the physical side with the other.

All of that is a part of sexuality, and we can be anywhere on the scale, or off on a side trail all our own. As confusing as it can be, none of it is wrong, it's just you.

As for being the most messed up person on the planet - nah, I got you beat on that one :tongue:

When you say "sex with one" and "love with another", I can't help thinking if men are more about sex while women are more into romance.

I certainly can't sleep with a guy unless I'm in love with him, or at least there have to be some romantic feelings for him. I can't separate emotional and physical need.

I'm quite sure guys like me, regardless of sexual orientation, are everywhere. However, we're often viewed as losers if we let our sentiment take control.