Lost a friend

[Zennyboy]

Let me start with a story that basically the same thing sorta happened to me.

My best friend who i spent 9 years of my life growing up with, was spending a night over mine for my birthday, when i finally told him about myself.

Now he is a christian and all that, and on that day without doing whats your friend did, he picked up his stuff and left. it broke my heart.

three days went by and we hadnt spoken, to then suddenly having my mum tell me he was at the door and wanted to speak to me and she sent him up. He sat down and first thing he asked was if i had feelings for him, to which i said no and he said everything will be fine.

Sometimes friends will run, but they do come back after they think things through.

That said though, there are some that dont come back and tbh you are worth so much more and you shouldnt use the word friend for people like that, harsh as it sounds. But its because they been sucked into the delusion of religious life being the only course to live life, and therefore are beyond reasoning.

I hope it works out for you like it did for me, if not, hold your head up high hun, because your worth so much!

[hue]

i have the same sort of thing happening at work. i'm fairly new there
and have developed some friendships, but as word of my after-work
lifestyle circulates (i don't do drag at work) i see that some of my
new friends are distancing themselves. the good news for me is
that others seem to be more willing to be friendly and that's a great
thing....especially with a TG woman (who prefers to be called a guy).
lol, who'd have thunk....a TG woman and a queen hanging out together.

life is good!

sorry to hear about ur friend. some folks just can't get past their
own value systems. the old adage is "some open minds should be
closed for repairs." her actions reflect her values even though
her words promised acceptance.

in my former life i tried to be open to others, even tho i was hugely
involved in deep south conservative religion. in this bible belt tiny
town i've seen a great deal of acceptance from neighbors and buy
most of my "girl" stuff at a church-based thrift store. even there i
am welcomed...awkwardly so, but welcomed!

ok, i'm meandering. hope your friend is able to get past her
hangups.

hugz

[Corsac]

Just leave things as they are, If your friend wants to continue the friendship then let them come and tell you. They are the one distancing themselves so they should be the ones to bridge the gap again.

Almost every friend I had gave me the could shoulder after I came out 2 years back, the rest of the world is welcome to them if they want to be judged like I was.

[pellaz]

Dont be disappointed if square friends refuse to fill the round holes in your life. Consider all the people you meet and put them into containers. The range is:
people you "can tell anything and relationship material" to
and
people you know you dislike.

Your are better off if you can ignore the people on the dislike side
and
You are lucky if you put your parents and or boy friend on the "you can tell anything to side"

in between you have people who you can call to help you fix cars. You have the republicans who might be fun to take shopping. You have friends that can pick you up at the airport. Dont be disappointed if square friends refuse to fill the round holes in your life. Re assign them to where they do fit and be happy you have one more friend.