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some people are harder to come out to.
#11
It is hard to come out because it's being accepted for who you are and also you don't want to appear to hurt people around you.
In my case my father doesn't know even though I have given many hints and my sister also did say to him one day that "How do you know that it is girl's that he is interested in ?"
If you have enough support around you, then you will know when the time is right.
Even though I love my father dearly, At 83 he is a bit old school so I doubt even telling him would make a difference myself but that's me.
Whatever you feel in your heart, Go for it as there are always friends here to help you in a time of need.
I wish you the very best and may your future be a happy and loving one. x
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#12
They are in denial, and since you are 'only' bisexual that means that the right girl will come along and their plans for you (Wife, Marriage, 2.5 kids, 3.5 vehicles, 1.5 pets, white picket fence, 5 bedroom McMansion, etc) will be completely fulfilled.

You told them when you were 17... Sorry, parents don't buy into the idea that their kids have their own brain and can think on their own, thus in their mind your 'sexual exploits' were only fantasy (at best). No doubt they wouldn't believe you were having sex at that age either.

Parents hate to see their kids as independent, adults capable of knowing what they want in life. Your parents will see you in diapers and taking that first faltering step - well forever. That is what parents do.

Since you told them twice, you did your part. If they believe or not is on them.

The only time they might believe is when you bring a boyfriend around for dinner - do expect them to comment that this is only a phase, that you are refusing to grow up and do the right thing (get married, have lots of babies, make them grandparents, etc).

Since you are bisexual, they will always have hope that the right gal will come along. If you were 100% gay things would be going a lot differently, their denial wouldn't be possible since there is no hope of becoming grandparents and then they would react more to who and what you are.

My own mother held out for a 'woman' in my life up until I last spoke with her. She purposefully changed the name of my partner to the effeminate form and asked me when I'm going to bring my gal around...

(sigh) No mother, she is really a he....

No, I never took a partner to either of my parents. Both of my parents are very, very, very sick individuals and I wouldn't even introduce a worst enemy to them - there are something that are too inhumane and cruel to do to people.... :eek: :tongue:
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