Looking for the Right things to say....

[writerken]

Maybe you could join a PFLAG group near you, if there is one, or find a website concerning parent of LGBT people... ?

good idea to contact PFLAG

[princealbertofb]

While it is fine to 'make it a non issue', gay marriage still ''is'' an issue, especially in the States at the moment, but you can be as cool about it as you like. That's a personal option.

[fenris]

If you really and sure know... why playing a "game" .... tell him what you know and tell him that you are on his side... that he is your son
restraint is a nice thing ... but I can´t see that it brings a benefit here.

Wait for a good moment ... take care that you both have a lot of time... switch off the phone and talk....

I advice a gay Son the same ... be honest... be fair... and I think that works for a father of a gay son in the same way....

[Rainbowmum]

Hello Rasque first let me welcome you to G.S.

I knew my youngest son was gay from a very young ages.
Although my boys were surrounded with people of all sexuality ,and knew that both my husband and I are activist for gay rights,I did not want to intrude on my youngest privacy.

He was 16 when he came out to us and he was so very grateful that we allowed him his time to do so.

What you can do in the meantime is become an activist for gay rights and ask him if he wants to join in.
Whatever you do , do not take away his right to explore and come to terms with his sexuality.

I am very happy that your son has your support.

[lizzielee]

Can I just say, what a wonderful man you are. The most important thing here you can do is to support your son, regardless of your views on it all. You may not like it but support and love is what your son needs now. No questions just love and support. It seems you are already doing this. Congratulations for being such a fantastic father. I personally think it will be best if you let him decide when it is the right time for him to offically come out. Just be there for him as you are now. You can't go wrong. mile:

[Miles]

Welcome, and if only more dads were like you. Others have already given good advice, but I'll just add as long as your son knows you accept him and support him, it may be good not to push too much and let him work it out on his own terms. Not knowing the particulars of your relationship with him it's hard to tell where to draw that line, but when I told my dad he did exactly the right thing by not making a big deal out of it, because it really wasn't one. I'd still feel weird talking about it with my dad just because we don't often talk about personal things like that, but it's enough to know he supports me no matter what.