were you shy before your coming out?

[italianguy]

but your lifes have changed, after the coming out, in a positive or negative manner?

[dfiant]

No, your life changes before you come out, that is why we come out, life just gets easier after coming out

[italianguy]

yes you're right! effectively I'm changing: slowly but I'm changing and I know that a day in which I could do free the coming out will arrive

[dfiant]

yes you're right! effectively I'm changing: slowly but I'm changing and I know that a day in which I could do free the coming out will arrive

Definately, that is normal, that's what most of us refer to when we say that coming out is a process

[italianguy]

thank you all for your advices

[72jay]

I've always been overly shy (but have become a bit better/less-shy over the years)
I'm not out (and no plans to come out), but even if I did it wouldn't change my underlying shyness...

[hank]

I never have been shy, aside from my sexuality, I came out in march of this year. The one thing I have been holding back all of these years. I am a leader and an extrovert, so not really shy.

Mainly the reason I kept my silence about my sexuality is because I wasn't sure, I didn't want to be gay or bi, least of all bi but, I couldn't make it go away. At one point you just accept you cannot change it, that is when I came out. Deep inside I don't like to admit but I was worried what others would say but, now my deepest regret was ever worrying about that.

[watkins]

Nope, pretty much the same!

[lizzielee]

I wasn't shy but more the "fear" of i all and the acceptance back in the 70's 80's.
Thankfully it's much better now.......
All the best with this and I love Italy and especially Milan.........just a gorgeous place.

[ManicReptile21]

I don't think I was ever shy. People always thought I was crazy because I learned to speak in metaphors and they were too childish and naive to understand. Now they say I'm deep and all that shit. I'm just like, "Bitch plz, I was never deep, you were just too shallow."