Straight Friend

[pellaz]

... He's married, happily, with children now. I'm a pretty good friend of his wife and she knows about and approves of us having this type of experience together ...

the wife may say anything to keep her marriage going. If he is not with you she knows it might be someone else; he is not going to change and will always be looking for the Joe on the side.

it would be so bad for him to pass a STD or something to his wife. This might be some of his thinking.

he is likely to have turned off the emotions. You in turn are quite capable of loving another boy. He should respect that.

dont let this become a substitute for the real thing even in a small way.

[michaelson]

I don't understand why, if he were really gay or bi, he's not wanting to go further. Or that he just hasn't said, "That's cool, but I'm done."