I'm in love with my student, what should I do?

[EvenOlderButWiser]

All I care about is him. I have double citizenship. UK - Russia. So in case I have to quit school, I can always come back to Moscow and find a job there. I am working as teacher not for money, but just for entertainment. It's not even my major.
The only thing that stops me from getting together with him is because I love him, and I am not sure what would be the consequences for him, even if we start this thing after he is 16 and it would be legal. That's all I care about. I don't wanna hurt him or something.

There would be two people in this relationship Alexander. You need to think about the consequences for YOU also, not just him.

ObW

[Alexander]

What if he is a special person for me?

[RockerBlocks]

What if he is a special person for me?

The only thing i can say here is that, I'm sorry but it's just not meant to be. It's too dangerous.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

What if he is a special person for me?

Alex, the law is the law. It doesn't recognise teacher - pupil relationships, regardless of whether you, he or both of you consider it special, consensual or whatever. Period.

Underage sexual or emotional relationships are known as "Jailbaite" for a reason.

Sorry man but its a big NO from me, and its a big NO from them (thats the rest of the GS family!)

ObW

[Alexander]

There would be two people in this relationship Alexander. You need to think about the consequences for YOU also, not just him.

ObW

I will leave school if I have to.

[Mrmatty77]

Even still, patience my friend, patience. You'll never know what will happen tomorrow, or next month, or next year. I don't know what rules over us, whether that be a bird in the sky or some great omnipotent bee, but usually if things were meant to be, they will be sooner or later. Don't force life to do as you wish. Things don't work that way. Take the time to do what is necessary and let whatever it is your feeling float around for a while. It could be love, or a crush, or a desperate attempt for much needed attention, tape over the hole in the wall, if you will. Whatever it may be, let life decide for itsself, this doesn't seem like something you'd want to pursue yourself. It's not that I don't approve or anything, I just don't want you to regret your decision. I don't want you overlooking your, for a lack of better words, "soul mate" because you were looking in the other direction. You obviously feel something isn't right about this situation. That could be a sign.
In any case, i'd like for you to sit back on this and give these feelings time. I don't want you to regret anything. No one should regret something when they had a warning sign right from the start.
I don't expect you to listen, I just wanted to express my opinion in hopes that something will get through to you. If you choose not to care for what i've said, then fine. Ultimately it's your decision. Hope things end up well bud.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

I will leave school if I have to.

The law doesn't work that way Alex.

You cant start a relationship with this guy, then decide to leave school thinking it makes everything all right. It doesn't, and you can still have the full force of the law come down on you.

Even years later you can still be prosecuted. Just watch the UK news right now if you don't believe me. 30 - 40 years after the "event" people are still being prosecuted with the full force of the law. And rightly so.

You must know this is wrong. I don't think you would have come here asking for advice if deep down you didn't know this was wrong.

[Alexander]

You're right. I wouldn't be here if I knew it was alright. I guess if we truly love each other we would have to wait a couple more years.

[cardiganwearer]

All I care about is him. I have double citizenship. UK - Russia. So in case I have to quit school, I can always come back to Moscow and find a job there. I am working as teacher not for money, but just for entertainment. It's not even my major.
The only thing that stops me from getting together with him is because I love him, and I am not sure what would be the consequences for him, even if we start this thing after he is 16 and it would be legal. That's all I care about. I don't wanna hurt him or something.

You're dealing with the law here, it's cold hard and uncaring. If you find you have to quit school you may find that you don't have the liberty to go back to Russia. You will have read the papers, we're in a bit of a moral panic about this sort of thing at the moment. Leniency is not going to be at the forefront of the public mind.

You came here for advice, lots of people are saying the same thing. I know you're in love and we don't understand, but the view that's emerging seems to be very consistent.

We're all strangers here, there's no logical reason why we should, but we really do give a fuck what happens to you and this kid. Just remember they won't last forever and there will come a time when you'll wish you could still muster that intensity of feeling (well in the future, that one).

Don't feel bad about the feelings that got you into this situation but brace yourself for the feelings you'll have when you deal with it responsibly. And when those feelings get you down, those people who give a fuck now and are telling you what you don't want to hear will be here to offer you any consolation they can. Just remember these feelings won't last forever and there will come a time when you'll wish you could still muster that intensity of feeling (well in the future, that one).

In your state it's going to be hard to imagine, but that's the least hurtful outcome.

[Nick9]

The law doesn't work that way Alex.

You cant start a relationship with this guy, then decide to leave school thinking it makes everything all right. It doesn't, and you can still have the full force of the law come down on you.

Even years later you can still be prosecuted. Just watch the UK news right now if you don't believe me. 30 - 40 years after the "event" people are still being prosecuted with the full force of the law. And rightly so.

You must know this is wrong. I don't think you would have come here asking for advice if deep down you didn't know this was wrong.

So, I guess the only way is - wait until he is 16, quit the job at his school and start dating him...