Hey I'm back! Sorry it was so long. Anyway, I have a boyfriend now, but all he seems to want is sex. I like him and he's nice and cute, but I was molested a few years back on multiple occasions and I really have commitment problems. I know he isn't a rapist, but I don't think he'll understand. I don't want sex yet. What do I do?
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Tell him to back off. If he's not prepared to give you space, you know where you stand in the respect scheme of things.
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Be honest, you don't have to go into any detail but gloss over what happened to you. If you don't make it a giant, glaring big deal, just something he should be aware of and try to understand and be patient with you on, then that's all it will be.
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Honesty is the best policy!
Just tell him. If he doesn't get it then tell him again till he gets it.
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I don't know what to say here since I myself push my bf to sex. xD
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Tell him you are not ready as yet and that things are moving too fast.
Have you thought about seeing someone regarding this issue ? What you went through is devastating and I believe you would benefit from professional help.
Do not underestimate the trauma and it's aftermath , this could effect you for a long time.
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I feel you just need to tell him what you have written here. Does he know what your boundaries are? If not he is likely to be feeling awkward, and possible a bit rejected. Communication can easily sort out what you feel comfortable with, but without knowing your fears or concerns it is a little unfair on him as well.
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[quote=JisthenewK] ... but I was molested a few years back on multiple occasions and I really have commitment problems ... [QUOTE]
dude what are you doing in a relationship?
get this fixed asap
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Chik, you have made 2 post and I find them both quite insensitive.
Welcome to the forum, but please chill a little.
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My guy, Tom, was straight and engaged to be married the day I met him. I suggested he bend over and try an experiment in sex. Wowee, he liked being fucked by a guy a lot more than his boring fiancee. She had a hard time understanding gossip columns. I was a good looking marine, a telepath with a genius IQ. Tom liked telepathy. He felt me fuck him as if he was fucking himself. Telepaths can't tell the difference between whose pleasure they feel. Sex is not swell. It became a life long addiction. The more orgasms you have. The more orgasms you want. Telepaths do it better.
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