03-03-2013, 03:49 PM
I fear that by asking this, I will get "analyzed", but I am going to ask anyway with hopes that the answers are more in general from experience that to delve into my issues regarding the subject.
From my observation over MANY years, it seems that it is necessary to play what I call, "dating games"..."hard to get" and the like. When YOU are first attracted to a person girl/guy and there is mutual attraction, how do you stay calm and "in control" without going into a "nose dive" full of anxiety, depression and everything in between when you want to be with the person and they are not available...work and life in general?
EXAMPLE: When I meet someone and there is no attraction on my part...it is easy for me and doesn't trigger extreme responses...everything goes fine BUT, when I AM attracted to a guy, I get all screwed up and act like a 16yo school girl.
I dream of what life would be like with the guy and then I worry that he is not interested in me in the "same way", or he is just out for "fun". I run all of these scenarios through my mind relentlessly to the point I can't even hold a normal conversation without forgetting what I was talking about.
It feels like falling in love, but at 52, I know it is not love because we have not known each other long. I can accurately say that "I love being with this guy". I can want more than virtually anything that I am again in his arms and laying together in bed.
How do YOU handle your "demons" when it comes to starting a relationship/dating?
I am interested in your responses.
Thank you,
Steven
From my observation over MANY years, it seems that it is necessary to play what I call, "dating games"..."hard to get" and the like. When YOU are first attracted to a person girl/guy and there is mutual attraction, how do you stay calm and "in control" without going into a "nose dive" full of anxiety, depression and everything in between when you want to be with the person and they are not available...work and life in general?
EXAMPLE: When I meet someone and there is no attraction on my part...it is easy for me and doesn't trigger extreme responses...everything goes fine BUT, when I AM attracted to a guy, I get all screwed up and act like a 16yo school girl.
I dream of what life would be like with the guy and then I worry that he is not interested in me in the "same way", or he is just out for "fun". I run all of these scenarios through my mind relentlessly to the point I can't even hold a normal conversation without forgetting what I was talking about.
It feels like falling in love, but at 52, I know it is not love because we have not known each other long. I can accurately say that "I love being with this guy". I can want more than virtually anything that I am again in his arms and laying together in bed.
How do YOU handle your "demons" when it comes to starting a relationship/dating?
I am interested in your responses.
Thank you,
Steven