would you?

[bluefox4000]

I'm disabled.....soooooo....I read with interest. lol.

Mick

[SolemnBoy]

Yeah, I also have to say that if a person is in need of constant care I might get second thoughts... but then again love is a pretty strong emotion so even that might be acceptable. Anything less is obviously a "yes".

[Hayden]

For myself it would all come down to what disability the person has...If its a slight limp or something like that i would say no if i was asked to go on a date with him.
On the other hand if the person was fully incapable of taking care of themselves i wouldn't even give it a second thought.

The fuck? Seriously?

[Hayden]

I have a bizarre (and probably not entirely healthy) attraction to vulnerability, physical or otherwise. Having a disabled brother, working with disabled people, and living with a type of disability myself, I think that obstacles such as a physical disability will either make a person more insightful and compassionate than the average person, or it will end up embittering them. I was once flirting with this guy online years ago, and when he told me he only had one arm, I instantly fell in love with him.

Like I said, it's not very healthy, but it's the truth.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Unsure - depends on the person.

I know a few who have a few 'problems' but end up using that/those as a reason to do nothing always going and on how they 'can't' live a life.

Thus attitude to it also plays a big role.

[SolemnBoy]

I have a bizarre (and probably not entirely healthy) attraction to vulnerability, physical or otherwise. Having a disabled brother, working with disabled people, and living with a type of disability myself, I think that obstacles such as a physical disability will either make a person more insightful and compassionate than the average person, or it will end up embittering them. I was once flirting with this guy online years ago, and when he told me he only had one arm, I instantly fell in love with him.

Like I said, it's not very healthy, but it's the truth.

Good. Now it won't be too embarrassing to admit I'm the same. Anyone who's different from the norm tends to grow up under different circumstances and I have this odd idea that a process as such creates a personality that I'd like. Not sure why...

[Hayden]

Good. Now it won't be too embarrassing to admit I'm the same. Anyone who's different from the norm tends to grow up under different circumstances and I have this odd idea that a process as such creates a personality that I'd like. Not sure why...

I understand. I think the allure is that it is more likely for someone with a disability to be devoid of egotism or arrogance (the most unattractive quality of them all). I personally am largely intimated by arrogance, and my worst fear is being judged negatively by a potential mate (this is where the unhealthy part comes in for me). The thing I'm really ashamed to admit is that my attraction to vulnerability may have something to do with the allure of being "needed" thus justifying my role or desirability to someone else.

I'm only speaking for myself of course.

[Gyrix]

I'd date them, but I'd treat them like any other date: If it doesn't feel right, break it off. If they make me feel happy and I fall in love, follow that path. I'd also stay if my partner became disabled, it's a duty. But I don't think I'd specifically look for a disabled partner as I'm not sure I'd be able to provide the support they'd need from a partner. I've known quite an amount of disabled people and found I tend to get along with them very well, but I never saw any in a sexual way.

[Hayden]

I'd date them, but I'd treat them like any other date

Ugh.... How insensitive. Treating them like any other date? No!!! You treat them like I treat them: as the special people they are, deserving of pity and my love!

[Gyrix]

That's what I was explicitly saying. Just because they're disabled doesn't mean they should be treated differently in dating terms. Your use of sarcasm is confusing