Dealing with Homosexual jokes?

[gilhooly]

I hate Jay Leno on the Tonight Show. He does this disgusting wiggle when referring to gay guys like he is our friend or something. The asshole had a vasectomy because he was terrified to have a kid. He spends a one hundred million a year on rare cars and sometimes seems to like cats.

He thinks it is funny that men get raped in prison in America. He believes that if anyone steals an old car of his, they should be raped in prison.

Raping men is no more acceptable than raping women. I was a poster boy in NYC after being beaten at 4 months of age by 2 sisters. Women are worse rapist than men. They get away with it by claiming to be victims. My sisters beat me because they said I laughed to much as a baby. I lost count on how many times they have hurt me. If I even stare at them, they scream their brother is a madman. They always win because fucking fools like Jay Leno encourage stupid behavior.

Hey Sport77 rant away. You are ranting to the choir when you rant to me. Mostly, like you, I am forced to mumble because guys don't want to act like victims. Rant away. GaySpeak is perfect for a good rant. It is hard enough to be gay without a good place to vent.

HELLO

[Mike0]

I often hear homophobic jokes and remarks too, they can be very annoying, even if it's not always mean-spirited. I just try to ignore them, the jokes/remarks are usually pretty dumb so it's not really worth paying attention.

[Counselor]

I joke back. I usually take it to the next level, though.

I've been working in a fertilizer plant for about two weeks, and they use, as an ingredient, a substance that when mixed with water, forms translucent white globs and a clear slime, and it is very sticky. Someone left chunks of the stuff in the utility sink, and it had made a rather gooey mess, which I was trying to clear out so the sink would drain. The guy I've been working with asked if I had cum in the sink, to which I replied "Not today."

[Sport77]

Thanks everybody for the responses. I've a few options.

I could get over it and let it go. As Mike0 says "the jokes/remarks are usually pretty dumb so it's not really worth paying attention"

I could ask them to tone it down if it continues to irritate me as much as it currently does.

The letter to a higher up doesn't apply in this case as the business only has 3 people in it total, but for a larger establishment, I completely agree.

I could come out to them. This will most likely happen anyways. I'm fairly sure that they'd both be shocked as I have known both the boss and my coworker for over 15 years. I'm also sure that they'd be embarrassed as well for their gay comments.

My boss and coworker aren't "Sunday Christians" either thank god (No pun intended) It's my belief that the both of them are clueless as to the effects of what they think is funny.

I think i'll also talk to the boss' daughter and get her advice too. She also is a good friend. She doesn't know either that I'm gay, but is very open minded and also has several gay friends.

Thanks again for all the advice. This is a really great forum!

[Pix]

Lately I'm becoming increasingly more and more annoyed with homosexual kidding around.:mad: Should I be?

Examples would be my co-workers motioning limp wrists and talking with a heavy lisp.

Me having an oil line in one hand and another one says " is that an oil line, or are you just impressed to see me, or the last one where I've got a flashlight in my mouth cause my hands are full and my other co-worker imitates a blow job.

I think I could handle a little kidding, what I couldn't handle is just how STUPID (unoriginal, uninspired, hackneyed) it is. If they want to be funny they could at least tell jokes instead of being so immature. And technically I think that's bullying, which most companies have a policy against ('course policy & practice tend to be 2 completely different animals...)

Btw, I once busted a girl for tagging my basement with "heya chinkie niggar" [sic] (obviously intended for my blasian stud girlfriend) and caught her, tackling her to the ground (she was running from me) and once I realized I had to say something I not only gave her the basics about property, racism, and how bad it would be for her if the one she intended that for had been the one to catch her instead but I also bawled her out over her lack of creativity and demanded, "And learn to spell!" From the look on her face I think she thought I was crazy by then, but I'm sure that only helped to prevent repeat incidents.

I think she was only 12, however. What's your co-workers excuse for acting like middle schoolers (at best)?

And would this be acceptable in your company if they imitated someone giving a blowjob to a woman?

[Pix]

These types are called "Sunday Christians", as they ONLY act christian on Sundays.
The rest of the week they are lieing, backstabbing, bigoted, prejudiced, hate-mongers.

I should know, my "mother" was one.

That reminds me about an honest man being tailgated by a stressed out woman on a busy boulevard. Suddenly, the light turned yellow just in front of him. He did the right thing, stopping at the crosswalk, even though he could have beaten the red light by accelerating through the intersection.

The tailgating woman hit the roof, and the horn, screaming in frustration as she missed her chance to get through the intersection. As she was still in mid-rant, she heard a tap on her window and looked up into the face of a very serious police officer. The officer ordered her to exit her car with her hands up. He took her to the police station where she was searched, finger printed, photographed, and placed in a holding cell.

After a couple of hours, a policeman approached the cell and opened the door. She was escorted back to the booking desk where the arresting officer was waiting with her personal effects.

He said, "I’m very sorry for this mistake. You see, I pulled up behind your car while you were blowing your horn, flipping off the guy in front of you, and cussing a blue streak at him. I noticed the Choose Life license plate holder, the What Would Jesus Do? bumper sticker, the Follow Me to Sunday-School bumper sticker, and the chrome-plated Christian fish emblem on the trunk.

"Naturally, I assumed you had stolen the car."

[Counselor]

that reminds me about an honest man being tailgated by a stressed out woman on a busy boulevard. Suddenly, the light turned yellow just in front of him. He did the right thing, stopping at the crosswalk, even though he could have beaten the red light by accelerating through the intersection.

The tailgating woman hit the roof, and the horn, screaming in frustration as she missed her chance to get through the intersection. As she was still in mid-rant, she heard a tap on her window and looked up into the face of a very serious police officer. The officer ordered her to exit her car with her hands up. He took her to the police station where she was searched, finger printed, photographed, and placed in a holding cell.

After a couple of hours, a policeman approached the cell and opened the door. She was escorted back to the booking desk where the arresting officer was waiting with her personal effects.

He said, "i’m very sorry for this mistake. You see, i pulled up behind your car while you were blowing your horn, flipping off the guy in front of you, and cussing a blue streak at him. I noticed the choose life license plate holder, the what would jesus do? bumper sticker, the follow me to sunday-school bumper sticker, and the chrome-plated christian fish emblem on the trunk.

"naturally, i assumed you had stolen the car."

Best. Punchline. Ever.

[dfiant]

Sticks and stones.

Won't break your bones, but can lead to a suicide .

[MisterTinkles]

I don´t think this is appropriate. I´m not sure what kind of job Sport77 has, but surely there must be a Human Resources office, or similar.

If you (Sport77) consider that personally confronting them won’t do much I guess is valid to complain, but it would be very unprofessional to go directly to the boss (if there´s a structure). And if you do decide to send a letter, I would personally restrain from using words like “bigot”.

I believe that is better if you just told them that you feel uncomfortable or offended by the way they behave at work (regardless if they are Christians or not, as we should not assume someone else’s perspective based on stereotypes… as I believe is the problem). Have in mind also that people joke, everyone does, and some people have a more rough and/or vulgar sense of humor and maybe you´re just not the type of person that feels comfortable in that environment, but it does not necessarily mean that it is homophobia or that they are harassing you.

Just keep it professional.

In my dealings with corporations and companies, I find that this is the only professional procedure that gets noticed.

If he is willing to go in to HR face to face, then thats a different matter. But he stated that nobody there knows anything about him. Im sure he doesnt want to challenge that issue right now, with this subject. Anonymous is the only route to go if you dont want to make yourself known. Most HR departments really dont care anymore anyway. They just placate you to get you out of the office anyway.


Personally, if it were me, Id start making dead christian jokes around these guys. But thats just me.

[jurk]

oh,you can deal with