03-27-2013, 01:03 AM
My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now, and have lived together for just over a year. He treats me like a prince, and for a while I had no doubts that he was 'the one.' But things have changed, and I don't know how to feel anymore.
We have always had a lot of personality differences between us. He is very reserved and conservative about most things, whereas I'm very outgoing and have a lot of interests. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't really enjoy the things I like, and that he does things just to make me happy. It's just strained sometimes.
On top of that, we have issues with affection. He does not really demonstrate affection in the way I need him to. I am a very physical, sexual person and he just isn't. Normally that's not too much of a problem, but it does get to be from time to time.
We just moved to a new apartment, and there was a lot of stress involved with that. We have been fighting a lot, and I have been wondering whether or not this is something we should continue to pursue. On top of all of that, one of my good friends (who also happens to be a co-worker) told me he has feelings for me a few days ago. He is gorgeous, and he and I have so much in common. Part of me just wants to run straight into his arms and forget about all of this. I have been having an absolute meltdown over it.
I really love my boyfriend. He is a wonderful person. He's very sweet, and any guy would be damn luck to have him. All that is to say that I just don't understand what it is that's making me unhappy. On the one hand, I don't want to compromise in finding what I want in a relationship. On the other hand, I'm old enough to know the realities of gay dating. The guy I'm with now is a rarity.
What would you do in my situation? Any advice is welcome
We have always had a lot of personality differences between us. He is very reserved and conservative about most things, whereas I'm very outgoing and have a lot of interests. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't really enjoy the things I like, and that he does things just to make me happy. It's just strained sometimes.
On top of that, we have issues with affection. He does not really demonstrate affection in the way I need him to. I am a very physical, sexual person and he just isn't. Normally that's not too much of a problem, but it does get to be from time to time.
We just moved to a new apartment, and there was a lot of stress involved with that. We have been fighting a lot, and I have been wondering whether or not this is something we should continue to pursue. On top of all of that, one of my good friends (who also happens to be a co-worker) told me he has feelings for me a few days ago. He is gorgeous, and he and I have so much in common. Part of me just wants to run straight into his arms and forget about all of this. I have been having an absolute meltdown over it.
I really love my boyfriend. He is a wonderful person. He's very sweet, and any guy would be damn luck to have him. All that is to say that I just don't understand what it is that's making me unhappy. On the one hand, I don't want to compromise in finding what I want in a relationship. On the other hand, I'm old enough to know the realities of gay dating. The guy I'm with now is a rarity.
What would you do in my situation? Any advice is welcome