First TIme

[cyoung112]

I've been with someone for a few months now and I really feel a connection between us. I'm physically, emotionally and sexually attracted to my boyfriend. He is sweet and I really enjoy being with him. I've really tried to concentrate on building a relationship verses just thinking about sex, which is really hard at times. Well, we've made out really hard lately and I wanna have sex with him and he is ready too. I know they may sound strange, but I have no one else to talk to. This will be my first sexual experience and I want it to be good. Does anyone have any advice for a first timer? We are not interested in anal right now, we just want release the built up energy. I would love some tips, positions, and advice. Thank you!

[cyoung112]

By the way, we have talked about what we like or what turns us on but since I've never done it before, I just want some advice.

[TomStatic]

Just take it slow, loads of kissing , and who ever is the bottom, make sure alot of lube is used as it could be pretty sore as it is your first time and your body wont know what is going on , but once your going slow it should be fine try out different positions , Happy for you that your doing it with someone you care about that is most important

[cyoung112]

I've heard to take it slow before. We are not doing anal. We just want to be close to each other and do it. LOL!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Que Sera, Sera.

Sex will happen how it happens, how great (or terrible) it is will be as it will be. All of that planning and prepping and trying hard to make it 'great sex' will most likely lead it to being less than good sex - too much performance pressure, to many other thoughts going through the head at the time.

Let go and let the moment carry you away.

[LateBloomer]

It's gonna be awkward for sure.

There is no rehearsal and let's be honest, good sex takes practice. And that's not a BAD thing. Exploration and experimentation (with the right partner) is part of the excitement.

For now, I think the best technique for "transitioning" into sexual activity is to start off with something sensual (but not exactly sexual) like a bath/shower together or exchanging massages.

The whole idea is to create a situation where one CARES FOR the other and puts THEIR satisfaction ahead of their own. Give attention to your partner by washing his back (and the rest!) and/or massaging his body.

So many First Sexual Experiences end with disappointment because both participants (notice I didn't say "partners") are in it for themselves. They want to get off like a porn star and really don't CARE about the other one.

Take the focus off yourself, put it on your partner in a loving and caring way. Sex is just one way (a GREAT way) to show your feelings. But if sex is done merely for the sake of having sex then yeah, it's gonna be awkward and mechanical.

Start with a bath, a massage or sharing a dessert, whatever, as long as you're both taking care of each other.

Good luck and Enjoy!

[AppleGeek]

Just take it very VERY slow. And make sure that you guys are both ready. And if it feels weird just stop and take more time. Also, do it in a bed. My first time was not you average place to have sex (and no i will not say where). You will be fine just proaction, kissing, passion, and SLOW

[cyoung112]

Thanks so far! We both are ready. My boyfriend has had sex before so I don't think he's as worried as I am. I do still have some questions. Since we are not doing anal, what some of the things we could do? I'm thinking it probably won't last a long time for me because I'll be so excited. Was this the case for you? I'm sure there will be a ton of kissing but the actual sex part may brief. Right?

[bobi117]

Being with someone you want to be with makes it so much better!

[bobi117]

Oh, by the way. Get in the mood. Get some soft music or whatever kind you like, dim the lights a little and enjoy each other. Explore his body with your hands and lips and let him do what he wants as well. It'll be great. I'm sure your boyfriend knows that you are inexperienced. If his head is on straight he'll be happy with just being oh, so close to you.