Obsession with your sexuality

[Stephen55]

Reason for my absense, I totally lost intrest, I lost intrest in my accounts on all my gay forums, stopped talking to gay friends and stopped going on gay chatrooms.

To say the novelty of being gay has worn off is an understatement, its not about thinking wow, constantly fretting, constantly caring about who you are for me anymore. Now im just at a stage where enough things are going on in my life its time to stop thinking being gay is anything clever or big, just a statement on my life.

Now if only the people around me would stop thinking its a big deal!

So who went through this period of transition where you just stopped caring and thinking about it so much and just took it with a pinch of salt just like getting up in the morning?

[Smurlos]

Reason for my absense, I totally lost intrest, I lost intrest in my accounts on all my gay forums, stopped talking to gay friends and stopped going on gay chatrooms.

To say the novelty of being gay has worn off is an understatement, its not about thinking wow, constantly fretting, constantly caring about who you are for me anymore. Now im just at a stage where enough things are going on in my life its time to stop thinking being gay is anything clever or big, just a statement on my life.

Now if only the people around me would stop thinking its a big deal!

So who went through this period of transition where you just stopped caring and thinking about it so much and just took it with a pinch of salt just like getting up in the morning?

I don't see being gay as 'a big thing' or a 'special thing' or anything like that at all. For me, I'm just any old person, like anyone else. So safe to say I don't care! I live by this:

My sexuality is merely an aspect of my personality, not the centre of my universe around which everything else revolves mile:

[marshlander]

Priorities change. That's what happens in life. For me, being gay may no longer be a novelty (especially in my advanced years!), but it is part of who I am and an important part too. I don't think it is something I personally would want to put to one side. I worked very hard to get to this stage. On a daily basis, though, events take over and it just sits there along with all the other important stats just awaiting those times when it needs to assert itself.

[Shadow]

My sexuality is merely an aspect of my personality, not the centre of my universe around which everything else revolves mile:

That's very similar to mine babe ...

"My sexuality is merely one facet of the greater being that is ... me !!"

So yeah Stephen55, I've been there for a while now - being gay IS very fundemantal, and it IS important, and it DOES underpin a lot of things when you assess who we are, what we do, how we view things and so on, but it's ultimately one of a huge number of things that make our lives complete, so focusing EXCLUSIVELY on it is something that you'll perhaps find is mostly done by those people that are closeted, wanting to come out, or have recently come out ...

Good to have you back x

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!

[Wilem]

So who went through this period of transition where you just stopped caring and thinking about it so much and just took it with a pinch of salt just like getting up in the morning?

I remember that!

1. I obsessed (Which was just as well because when you're coming out you get alllll the questions)
   
2. I got bloody sick of it (the questions are all the same)
   
3. I accepted it as a part of me that a lot of people will have a hard time seeing past.

Now I'm resenting it.

But yeah, being gay does affect a lot, and is fairly important in terms of life. I suppose you can choose yourself how much you want to think about it, but it will always underpin your life, like Shadow says.
Coz he's genius.

[spotysocks]

So who went through this period of transition where you just stopped caring and thinking about it so much and just took it with a pinch of salt just like getting up in the morning?

I did! :biggrin:

I think is a normal thing to happen , usually does after one comes out. To me it took a lot of time and time on my own trying to think about life and changes. Talking to other gay people on or off line really helped to open my mind . Once you adjust to whatever changes you are going through the people around you will too. Remember, this life is your opportunity to do the best you can, focus in what you want and need to first make yourself happy.

Took me long time to get this in my head: Let you hair down and live, what everyone else thinks is not important , everything lays in or within you.