05-06-2013, 12:55 PM
Hello everyone. I’m new to this site and I was wondering if I could have a few peoples opinions on something that’s happening in my life.
To cut it short I came out about 3 years ago, my family accepted it and things have been ok. I met a man who I became friends with. We were very close and then we slept together. It changed things, but we tried to be simply friends (as he was planning to travel to Australia and he felt that a relationship under those cicumatances would not be a good idea, and I have to admit I see his logic)
He was away for 7 months and in that time we kept in touch practically every day via some means. During that time my heart ached for him but eventually I started to accept we were just friends and I even went on a date with another man.
He came back and we resumed our friendship and everything was great until we slept together again. After a lot of heavy discussion and upset we agreed to give it a go as a couple.
That was about 7 months ago and although we’ve had a lot of good times we’ve had a lot of unease too. I know deep in my heart that I like him more than he likes me. We love each other, but it’s a plutonic love. I suggested yesterday (after another heavy discussion) that we go back to simply friends. He has a lot of other problems in his life and he’s planning on moving to England at some stage in the not too distant future.
My question is, is it possible with so much baggage and pain behind us, can we be friends? I love him so much and don’t want to loose him from my life, but the idea of him with another man makes me sick to my stomach. Would a clean break be the best option? Is it possible he will realise or discover in the future he has more feelings for me?
What do you think?
To cut it short I came out about 3 years ago, my family accepted it and things have been ok. I met a man who I became friends with. We were very close and then we slept together. It changed things, but we tried to be simply friends (as he was planning to travel to Australia and he felt that a relationship under those cicumatances would not be a good idea, and I have to admit I see his logic)
He was away for 7 months and in that time we kept in touch practically every day via some means. During that time my heart ached for him but eventually I started to accept we were just friends and I even went on a date with another man.
He came back and we resumed our friendship and everything was great until we slept together again. After a lot of heavy discussion and upset we agreed to give it a go as a couple.
That was about 7 months ago and although we’ve had a lot of good times we’ve had a lot of unease too. I know deep in my heart that I like him more than he likes me. We love each other, but it’s a plutonic love. I suggested yesterday (after another heavy discussion) that we go back to simply friends. He has a lot of other problems in his life and he’s planning on moving to England at some stage in the not too distant future.
My question is, is it possible with so much baggage and pain behind us, can we be friends? I love him so much and don’t want to loose him from my life, but the idea of him with another man makes me sick to my stomach. Would a clean break be the best option? Is it possible he will realise or discover in the future he has more feelings for me?
What do you think?