Hello

[scot285]

I have not got the confidence to be 'out', or at least not yet anyway. Im at least bi-sexual as i like girls, but when i masturbate i only look at gay porn, so does this mean i lean towards the gay side even more??

Theres just something that excites me about a man, im guessing you have the same feelings seen as your gay yourself?? How did you find out? And how did you deal with it?? - If this makes sense??

[Shadow]

Sexual classification stems from sexual attraction and preference, so yeah - I'd say that fantasising to gay porn does make you at least bisexual (or bi-curious, depending on how technical we wanna get) ...

Welcome to GS by the way xx

Are you happy ? With yourself at the moment ? That's my question, because I think it's a more important question than whether you're in or out in many cases ...

Hope to see you around :biggrin:.

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!

[scot285]

Im more confused than anything right now, i have been for a long time (about a year)!! With no disrespect here, but i was brought up being told that gay couples is not the normal thing and not acceptable. I do not view it this way and i certainly dont think it. I see a man on man relationship just as normal in society today as a man on woman relationship.

Its confusing because i dont no what is normal anymore and i do have sexual feelings towards guys, and im always on the lookout for the hot ones, but i make it un-obvious, as i said earlier i dont have the confidence to be out with myself as of yet.

Im definitely bi curious and i have little interest in having sex with girls, i once heard on a chat show that some men can feel like this for a long time and then when they finally have some form of intercourse with a man there views and feelings change completely and they dont feel for men in that way anymore (does this make sense), maybe its because there just curious to see what sex with a man feels like??

Can you understand my confusion now? I have so many unanswered questions that i simply cnat get my head around!

[Smurlos]

Hey scot from Leicester! Big welcome to you!
Well what we can do (and we have a few renouned members known well for it here) is give as much advice/recount experience as possible. What we can't do is tell you what/how to think - you're an individual and what people like dislike comes down to an individual level.

It also depends on the... person you get to experience for the first time. Please don't rush into anything as your first experience may be with someone that is either unexperienced or over-confident. Also don't let yourself be forced into something you'd rather not do / you'd rather wait for.

All of this is probably self-explanatory and you're probably rolling your eyes thinking I am 'just like your mum' or something hehe but what I'm trying to say is don't make your first time nightmarish so that it puts you off for life. If you have a fantastic time with someone and don't feel right about it, then fair enough, you were probably bi-curious mile:

[princealbertofb]

Im more confused ... i dont have the confidence to be out with myself as of yet.

Im definitely bi curious and i have little interest in having sex with girls,... just curious to see what sex with a man feels like??

Can you understand my confusion now? I have so many unanswered questions that i simply cnat get my head around!

Oh Scot, what you're feeling is just so normal... We've all been more or less taught to become straight, but your genes (or at least your inner feelings) are telling you a different story, so it's only normal to feel utterly confused about this. We all figure that, maybe, we should try the hetero thing, just in case it does change us but in the end, mostly, we revert to our primal attraction(s).
That's at least what I found out for myself, after having had one shortish gay affair in my early 20s, then a four-year relationship with a woman (which, incidentally was fine, except that when it ended, I still felt unfulfilled about my gay side). I was not going to have gay affairs on the side, so I waited and waited and waited some more till I met my loved on, the great Marshlander (here on these boards too) and everything started making utter sense.

I hope you won't have to wait those 18 long years before you find what settles your heart...

What Shadow was asking is primordial, how do you feel about it? Are you happy with the way things are? What would you like to change to make things happier, or easier. A leopard can't change its spots, however, so maybe it is best and wisest to accept that one is spotted, if that be the case.

[scot285]

Thanks people for helping me to try and get a better understanding of it all!! I know of a few people in leicester that are gay and i have spoke to them before!! Im trying to get with this guy atm hes gay and out, also looking for a bf!! But im taking things slow and im just gonna sit abck and see what happens!!

Thanks!!

[spotysocks]

Hey Scot, didnt say welcome to GS yet ... my bad! Welcome and enjoy!

[fjp999]

Hi Scot, welcome to the site and enjoy your growing identity.

frank

[scot285]

Thanks you guys!! :tongue: