06-26-2013, 07:42 PM
Nick9 Wrote:Nobody said it is ok to cheat.
I assure you, the majority of the straight couples would tell you the same. It should have not happened.
It happened - big mistake.
Now, why would you want your partner to know? To hurt him? What should he do with the information?
I dunno? because you owe to your partner to be truthful to them maybe? You know just some little thing like honesty or some such. Keeping them in the dark about something they should know about is just as much of a lie as telling them a falsehood to their face. Maybe youre ok lying to your partner(s)? but Im not in the habit of it. By condoning his action of keeping the information from his bf you are condoning his act of cheating. Youre basically saying its ok to cheat as long as his bf doesnt find out about it.
They should be the one to decide the next action to take and not you because if you cheat on your partner you are the one in the wrong and not them. Yes its gonna hurt, its gonna hurt BOTH of you and you bear the weight of blame of your actions.
Honestly the op just sounds like he's been resisting being with this guy for a long time and it finally come to a head that night when he cheated on his bf. You dont partially jerk off a guy and expect it to not be cheating. Yeah he crossed a line, a big line.