07-07-2013, 10:29 PM
Act like a slut get treated like a slut.
I would never, ever french kiss on a first meeting. Heck I'm not even going to allow most first dates to end with a kiss. Why? Because I want to make it perfectly clear that I am looking to get to know a person before we swap bodily fluids.
By allowing him to french kiss you you sent the message that you were in this for 'just sex' - and that is what he was most likely looking for.
Men are pigs - get that into your head right now and start putting up the walls and digging the moat to keep the pigs out.
I strongly suggest no kissing when first meeting (french or otherwise), I also strongly suggest you lay out your intentions and what it is you are looking for right from the bat. If you are looking for a one night stand/casual sex and only sex - tell the fella. If you are looking for a long term relationship then tell him.
Being forthright and honest about what it is you want will weed out the majority of players. The 'Just Sex' guys will say 'oh, gee, well thanks' and move on when they discover that you have a strictly relationship bent.
To strengthen that and to keep the more persistent 'just sex' guys away, tell them you have a 30 day no sex policy. This will weed out all but the 'I must conquer you' jerks who will play along and actually go through the motions of 'dating' you just to get you into bed - because now you are a challenge, a trophy to be won.
However if you date enough and pay close attention to what they are saying and hold back your emotions and keep from falling from them - you will get clues and a gut feeling that they are out for conquest, not relationships.
If you want 'just sex' with fellows then french kiss them on the dance floor minutes after meeting them. But don't expect it to become more than just sex. It is very rare where two sex hounds on the hunt end up finding a mate for the long haul.
I would never, ever french kiss on a first meeting. Heck I'm not even going to allow most first dates to end with a kiss. Why? Because I want to make it perfectly clear that I am looking to get to know a person before we swap bodily fluids.
By allowing him to french kiss you you sent the message that you were in this for 'just sex' - and that is what he was most likely looking for.
Men are pigs - get that into your head right now and start putting up the walls and digging the moat to keep the pigs out.
I strongly suggest no kissing when first meeting (french or otherwise), I also strongly suggest you lay out your intentions and what it is you are looking for right from the bat. If you are looking for a one night stand/casual sex and only sex - tell the fella. If you are looking for a long term relationship then tell him.
Being forthright and honest about what it is you want will weed out the majority of players. The 'Just Sex' guys will say 'oh, gee, well thanks' and move on when they discover that you have a strictly relationship bent.
To strengthen that and to keep the more persistent 'just sex' guys away, tell them you have a 30 day no sex policy. This will weed out all but the 'I must conquer you' jerks who will play along and actually go through the motions of 'dating' you just to get you into bed - because now you are a challenge, a trophy to be won.
However if you date enough and pay close attention to what they are saying and hold back your emotions and keep from falling from them - you will get clues and a gut feeling that they are out for conquest, not relationships.
If you want 'just sex' with fellows then french kiss them on the dance floor minutes after meeting them. But don't expect it to become more than just sex. It is very rare where two sex hounds on the hunt end up finding a mate for the long haul.