07-12-2013, 10:01 PM
I really need some advice on my relationship and it is a rather difficult and odd situation. I have been with my partner for 7 yrs now and I do love him to death, we have been through a lot of ups and downs, but still found some way to still love each other and want to work through things.
We have been in a Domestic Partnership for 2 years now and with the recent court rulings that now allow Marriage in California we started talking about planning a wedding. The down fall is I am now having mixed feels about this because we have a complicated relationship.
When I say we have a complicated relationship, let me explain...he lives at home with his mom and grandma and I live about 40 mins away. There are several reasons for this including that we almost got a separation about a year ago. Since then we have tried to work on things.
I am 32 yrs old and a Sous Chef at a high end restaurant and he is 25 and currently unemployed and just looks after his grandma who is in her 80's and not well. He does not have a drivers license or ever has, yet has worked but previously relied on his grandma to drive him to work before she started getting sick.
He has no drive or motivation to move out or try to find a job or get his drivers license and always has some excuse when I ask him about it. I just worry that even once we get married we still will not be living together and that things will not change to taking the next step in building out life together again.
Please give me some advice or feel free to ask more questions, I will be happy to give you more information or details...I really need help and advice figuring this out from a neutral party.
Thank you,
Steven
We have been in a Domestic Partnership for 2 years now and with the recent court rulings that now allow Marriage in California we started talking about planning a wedding. The down fall is I am now having mixed feels about this because we have a complicated relationship.
When I say we have a complicated relationship, let me explain...he lives at home with his mom and grandma and I live about 40 mins away. There are several reasons for this including that we almost got a separation about a year ago. Since then we have tried to work on things.
I am 32 yrs old and a Sous Chef at a high end restaurant and he is 25 and currently unemployed and just looks after his grandma who is in her 80's and not well. He does not have a drivers license or ever has, yet has worked but previously relied on his grandma to drive him to work before she started getting sick.
He has no drive or motivation to move out or try to find a job or get his drivers license and always has some excuse when I ask him about it. I just worry that even once we get married we still will not be living together and that things will not change to taking the next step in building out life together again.
Please give me some advice or feel free to ask more questions, I will be happy to give you more information or details...I really need help and advice figuring this out from a neutral party.
Thank you,
Steven