How to meat real, non-exploitive guys

[Arkansota]

And that will make you? I don't believe you're that naive... I met little dudes with the same philosophy before. And they're often very little clever con artist themselves

If you're going to be rude, please leave this thread.

[cardiganwearer]

If you're going to be rude, please leave this thread.

I don't think he's trying to be rude, just to impart a little wisdom through humour. There's a possibility you're taking him a bit literally, which given what you've said about yourself is understandable.

Anyway, he's Canadian, I don't think they have rude over there. Also he's right in his conclusion but I don't think he's pointing the finger at you in making it.

As to the question in your post...

If it's possible, you might be better off trying to mix with gay people in groups and form ordinary friendships first. That way you'll be among people who can give you hints and nudges about what to make of different people.

In any such group much of it will be gossip and some of it malicious (unless things have changed radically since I was in your position) but it's all the information you'll have.

You are fairly unlikely to fall under the influence of some evil Svengali-like character in the group situation too. The situation will help put into focus the warning signs if you do. For example, does a person want to separate you from the group.

I was never a real fan of the "scene" back in the day but I knew that whatever venue I found myself in there was a friend or acquaintance I could talk to, even if it was just to enable me to shake off some unwanted attention. Modesty prevents me boasting about all the unwanted attention I used to get, sadly so does history.

I understand your autism may make groups difficult to handle but that's a skill you'll have to pick up whatever happens. You don't need a huge group, there's no better support than a few friends.

So perhaps the best thing to aim for in the immediate term is not finding The One, but a bunch of people.

[Jake]

If you're going to be rude, please leave this thread.

Johnny little boy... do you know anything about your so called "Freedom of speech" in the USA... the same Freedom of speech that allows you in another thread to compare Black people and Gay community where one is PEOPLE of a different skin color and culture and the Other englobe all nationalities for a sexual orientation. The very same freedom of speech that allows members of the KKK to spread their hate newspapers across everyone's houses and yet nobody can do anything about it. Are you familiar with this adage? "Your freedom begins when one's ends." The post went to moderation and it came to surface so that means that the moderators of this board did not think it was rude.

And no it's not rude It's an open question that you could definitely nibble on it. What's a real man? If a real man need to know how to control its financial... and obviously this goes without asking that if you are 18 and you're in a relationship with a guy and from what I know at 18 you're not yet completely settled unless you have a trust fund (which again does not comes from your doing) what does that makes you? Are you a real man for looking for real men that can support you or are you planning in becoming a real man by learning how to control your own financial? You know the financial you get from working... not just being someone's house boy.

One last thing Johnny boy... this is a public forum... if you post something in here and you're not ready to be challenge on some of your rhetoric I may suggest you the very same you just wrote above with a little nuance:

If you're going to be CLOSE MINDED, please leave this FORUM.

See how easy it is? to each of your actions, saying, there will be someone to disagree with you, if you're not ready for that, come back when you are because it won't stop. You're not on a desert island and this is not a private blog. Got it boy?

[AlfredM]

Anyway, he's Canadian, I don't think they have rude over there.

This! Really? :eek:

[Jake]

This! Really? :eek:

No we don't we may be blunt... straightforward and in your face attitude but we're not too often rude

[pellaz]

new concept, maybe it works for you? actually not new for the other 95%, in that big straight married relationship.

give up, acknowledge your sole mate will never be remotely like you. Would you like to date your self, if yes than stop reading this:

figure how your house hold should look, parents as a model starting point for all its good bad. find someone with the same needs. What parts are missing and find a bf that fills in some not all of the gaps. Grow your to do the rest. No matter how hard you try good if your partner dosn't respect the effort your going to get frustrated.

[Geminize]

kinda harsh and demeaning to point that out to the OP.

Seriously?


Johnny, I hope that didn't come across as harsh or demeaning to you. I got a chuckle out of your thread title, that's all.