08-12-2013, 11:48 AM
I've recently been chatting to a Brazilian guy on the dating site Plenty of Fish who I thought was living in London at the time. He seemed like a real nice guy and if his photos were anything to go by he was really, really good looking. He claimed he could cook and seemed in general smart and sophisticated. I found him very attractive.
I suggested we meet and then he said he was living in Rio. I wasn't aware of this though maybe I overlooked something. So anyway I just said 'never mind' and 'have fun over there' as in 'never mind about my suggestion of meeting up' and 'I hope you have a good time in Rio'. Now for some reason he took offence at this and accused me of being rude and basically just saying goodbye when he still wants to meet.
But how can we meet if we're living thousands of miles apart?!
So I posted a long message back saying I am disappointed he thought of me that way.
And now I feel bad about the whole exchange as he did initially seem like a really nice guy and he looked really handsome. I hope I haven't hurt his feelings. Maybe he was too sensitive? Maybe I was inadvertently insensitive without realising? Maybe we just misunderstood each other? I dunno, but I feel bad about the whole episode. Maybe there were just too many cultural differences between us.
Still its a shame. I never seem to have much luck with online dating. But its not like I have the confidence to go out to a gay bar and start chatting to a nice, young guy there I don't know. If I do go out I only ever seem to attract guys who are well into their 40s and 50s. There's nothing wrong with older guys at all its just that I prefer someone a bit nearer my age in their 20s and 30s (the oldest I'd go for is 38 which is 10 years older than me).
So what happened here do you think? Has this ever happened to anyone on PoF or elsewhere?
I suggested we meet and then he said he was living in Rio. I wasn't aware of this though maybe I overlooked something. So anyway I just said 'never mind' and 'have fun over there' as in 'never mind about my suggestion of meeting up' and 'I hope you have a good time in Rio'. Now for some reason he took offence at this and accused me of being rude and basically just saying goodbye when he still wants to meet.
But how can we meet if we're living thousands of miles apart?!
So I posted a long message back saying I am disappointed he thought of me that way.
And now I feel bad about the whole exchange as he did initially seem like a really nice guy and he looked really handsome. I hope I haven't hurt his feelings. Maybe he was too sensitive? Maybe I was inadvertently insensitive without realising? Maybe we just misunderstood each other? I dunno, but I feel bad about the whole episode. Maybe there were just too many cultural differences between us.
Still its a shame. I never seem to have much luck with online dating. But its not like I have the confidence to go out to a gay bar and start chatting to a nice, young guy there I don't know. If I do go out I only ever seem to attract guys who are well into their 40s and 50s. There's nothing wrong with older guys at all its just that I prefer someone a bit nearer my age in their 20s and 30s (the oldest I'd go for is 38 which is 10 years older than me).
So what happened here do you think? Has this ever happened to anyone on PoF or elsewhere?