08-19-2013, 03:46 AM
Hi Everyone,
Here's my situation, and I hope that someone can give me some advice on what to do. I've been in a good, stable relationship for over six years. He's been in school for the bulk of that time and he finally finished school earlier this year. We've always lived relatively close to one another and would get together on the weekends and often during the week when our schedules would allow. But now that school is over he's had to move back home with Mom about 5 states over.
He's upset because of this move, but he didn't want to move in with me (mostly because I told him that there was no way I could carry him and his bills, which is 100% honest) so I'm worried that he's a bit peeved at me because of that. Throughout our relationship he's never been excited about talking online or through text, but he's terrible about forgetting his phone or charging it, so even if I do call within 10-15 minutes the phone is dying or he doesn't even answer to begin with.
Now that he's so far away I'm really struggling with the non-communication. I mentioned this to him a couple of weeks ago and he said that he would be more proactive in responding to me. Of course, nothing has changed. I'm trying to not annoy him with messages and texts but I'm trying to give him space and time and not smother him when he's already feeling annoyed about his situation. I probably sent 5 texts a week and maybe will get a response to one of them. I'm always the one to initiate the phone calls--we've had maybe 5 phone calls to each other in three months.
So am I just being annoying and expecting too much? Do I just need to suck it up? A couple of weeks ago I tried an experiment where I didn't log onto Facebook, send a text, login another site we both frequent, send an email, or call. It took him 9 days before he sent me a text asking me a question, and it wasn't even about where I had been for the past week+. I know it's just his personality, but damn.
Here's my situation, and I hope that someone can give me some advice on what to do. I've been in a good, stable relationship for over six years. He's been in school for the bulk of that time and he finally finished school earlier this year. We've always lived relatively close to one another and would get together on the weekends and often during the week when our schedules would allow. But now that school is over he's had to move back home with Mom about 5 states over.
He's upset because of this move, but he didn't want to move in with me (mostly because I told him that there was no way I could carry him and his bills, which is 100% honest) so I'm worried that he's a bit peeved at me because of that. Throughout our relationship he's never been excited about talking online or through text, but he's terrible about forgetting his phone or charging it, so even if I do call within 10-15 minutes the phone is dying or he doesn't even answer to begin with.
Now that he's so far away I'm really struggling with the non-communication. I mentioned this to him a couple of weeks ago and he said that he would be more proactive in responding to me. Of course, nothing has changed. I'm trying to not annoy him with messages and texts but I'm trying to give him space and time and not smother him when he's already feeling annoyed about his situation. I probably sent 5 texts a week and maybe will get a response to one of them. I'm always the one to initiate the phone calls--we've had maybe 5 phone calls to each other in three months.
So am I just being annoying and expecting too much? Do I just need to suck it up? A couple of weeks ago I tried an experiment where I didn't log onto Facebook, send a text, login another site we both frequent, send an email, or call. It took him 9 days before he sent me a text asking me a question, and it wasn't even about where I had been for the past week+. I know it's just his personality, but damn.