Would you ever get married?

[Evan]

I would love to get married some day. It would be great to call someone I truly care about my husband. I mean, I know marriage is not a necessity and you can be committed to someone equally well without it, but for me personally, it adds something special to the relationship. I'd love to have and share that with someone.

[Dreamer]

For me,
I take a similar approach,
when asked about having kids...
HELL TO THE FUCK NOOO!!!!!


I'm crazy, but I'm not that crazy.


Too much risk, and time involved.


No Thanks.


My future plans consist of maintaining the utmost
in personal and financial independence,
as humanly possible.


Once achieved,
I'll do whatever I can to maintain it.


Therefore, a nagging husband
or bratty rebellious children
will never fit into that equation.

[tavi]

I can understand it for legal reasons and way of protecting yourself and i get the need to have something solid, a declaration of your commitment. But a religous ceremony for a same sex marriage, No, i cant stand the hypocrisy, so im all for other types of civil union.

[Genersis]

Why would a religious ceremony be hypocritical?

[Evan]

But a religous ceremony for a same sex marriage, No, i cant stand the hypocrisy, so im all for other types of civil union.

Isn't it exactly the other way around, though? I think it's hypocritic when churches DON'T marry same sex couples when the most important thing they preach is love. I think same sex marriage belongs in churches just as much as other marriages do. That's why I'd love to get married in a church.

Also, my church's pastor is very supportive of gay people.

I don't understand the way you think. I mean, same sex marriage in a church is wrong, but so is not allowing same sex marriage? So.. the church is always wrong?
I'm genuinely trying to understand..

[btmsup4u]

For me,
I take a similar approach,
when asked about having kids...
HELL TO THE FUCK NOOO!!!!!


I'm crazy, but I'm not that crazy.


Too much risk, and time involved.


No Thanks.


My future plans consist of maintaining the utmost
in personal and financial independence,
as humanly possible.


Once achieved,
I'll do whatever I can to maintain it.


Therefore, a nagging husband
or bratty rebellious children
will never fit into that equation.

That was me at your age, maybe one day you'll realize that there is more to life than doing whatever you please whenever you want and having whatever you want, like when you hit hard times and none of your fair weather let's go party RIGHT NOW friends take you seriously and you start longing for someone close. Someone who will provide all the qualities that you get out of each friend or passing lover. He will hold you and love you just as you are, even when you've had too much to drink and your sick in the bathroom and he's right there with you and he's there when you wake up. And it does give you purpose in life because you are equally there for him when he needs you. I was very selfish and spoiled throughout most of my life. I was also very stubborn and mostly, dumb. I thought the way things, that marriage is an obsolete institution and that it would hold me back, even being in a committed relationship would. When I started to realize I was getting older and I wasn't that naive little 23 year old with the hot bum anymore and the only people I had in my life were friends, it started to feel pretty lonely. I'm not saying sex is over once you get older because I've debunked that myth pretty good. I still on occasion get hit on when I am in the city by myself and that young crazy me would totally have thought nothing of ruining the trust and love my husband and I have worked so hard to build since we've been together, to give in to the attention of a passing stranger- to stroke my ego and go off to have an anonymous encounter with that person just because. Because I am free? Why? So what? Even if I allowed myself the freedom to do whatever I wanted like that, where would it get me other than brief interludes of physical satisfaction? That guy ain't here right now... he's gone. My husband is, though. Satisfying him is by far the sexiest achievement for me. It's easy to have great sex with a stranger or new boyfriend. Try maintaining that level of happiness day in and day out for years. Didn't think so, it takes a lot of discipline and commitment and while you do lose that "freedom" it's give and take and you also gain a lot you don't get out of anything less binding. Not to mention a healthy relationship should never be that restrictive anyway. Not sure who you've considered for marriage but a great man will support you in anything you do or talk sense into you if you run the risk of doing something really stupid. Not hold you back. So unless you're just a perpetually self centered and stingy person, don't lock yourself out of the idea. Be open minded about it that way if that awesome one-of-a-kind man wonders into your life at unexpectedly and takes you by storm, you don't make the dumbest mistake of your life and send him running and end up all alone when you are finally too old to deal with the drama of casual dating and then regret it later. Trust me on this, I know.

[tavi]

The church condemns homosexuality, just seems a contradiction to me. Saying its wrong, then going ahead and doing it anyway.

Your pastor must be confused, just takes from his religion what suits him best. I dont think hes a serious man, just a loose character making himself happy & comftable.

My first partner always bought marriage up, i could hardly believe it, maybe goes to show why we no longer together.

[Evan]

My church doesn't say it's wrong? Still not getting the contradiction.

I assume you don't know a whole lot about Christianity or the bible, based on your post.. So I won't go into detail about why your assumption that Christians are supposed to be against gay marriage is wrong. But, it is.

I don't understand how you can judge a man based on one thing I say about him. My pastor's a great guy, he really helps a lot of people and is a genuinely nice person. I think it's a shame you're so judgmental when you don't know anything about him.

[Jason111]

Why not. If it's something we both want and CAN do, I'd do it. Without all the ceremonials, though.

[jimcrackcorn]

Marriage,,,, is a binding contract (legal document).

As with any contract, it should not be entered into without thoroughly thinking it thru and deciding if marriage is the right thing for you.

If you are a promiscuous bed hopper who doesn't want to share his/her possessions with anyone - then,,, marriage probably isn't for you (smile)......

For me, marriage is great. It gives us protections along with extra benefits. Just yesterday, the IRS said that married same-sex couples can file their tax's jointly - regardless of where you got married or what state you live in (this applies to American married couples).