4 years is a heavy amount of time....it's not like surgery where you can just rip him of your head....when you are used to someone for so long it will obviously take a proportional amount of time to get over him.
The positive thing is you recognized a behaviour pattern that is not good for you or him and you're trying to overcome it...sounds to me you're on your way to coming to terms and start fresh..
Good luck!
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Perhaps text him one last time, apologize for the way you acted and maybe explain the reason for doing so. At the end, explain that you won't be doing it anymore and wish him all the best in life. End things on a positive as you may regret it if you just leave it negatively and vanish.
After, delete his contact details. Keep away from social media and perhaps find a hobby? if anything post on here more and form friendships to keep your mind away. When you have the urge to text him your happy or sad moment, post it here instead!
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First. -Hugs-
I know it's not the same for everyone, but what helps me get over relationships more quickly is anger.
I try to concentrate really hard on his bad points and all the things that weren't right, i talk myself into how much better I am without him, I go out dancing, dancing a lot, in fact I believe dancing is magic, I dance and flirt and when I go back home alone I feel way better.
Knowing my next big story can start anytime I dim worthy.
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I think its time you talk to a counselor.
Since he has asked you not to contact him anymore, and you continue, that can be considered stalking.
And if you piss him off enough, he may do something legal to make you stop.
Better you go get some professional advice on this right now and put a stop to it yourself, before you end up in court.....or worse.
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4 years is a long time.
But you have to move on my friend.
That part of your life is over.
Let him move on too.
Leave him alone.
Richard
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